(Closed) Last Minute Guest Request – Yes or No?

posted 9 years ago in Etiquette
  • poll: Should I let my sister bring her last minute date?
    Be a nice sister and let him come. : (30 votes)
    83 %
    Be a little selfish and tell her no. : (6 votes)
    17 %
    Neither. (Please post any other ideas!) : (0 votes)
  • Post # 3
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    1896 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: August 2009 - St. Thomas of Villanova Church & the F.U.E.L. House

    Ooo, this is tough.  Are you and your sister close?  Have you met this guy and hung out with him at all?  Those are two of the criteria I’d look at to help make the decision!

    Post # 4
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    4466 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    Honestly I would just let him come.  It’s your sister’s problem where he sits at the ceremony, what he does while you’re getting ready, etc., not yours.  It would make your sister happy, and really wouldn’t impact your day at all :o) 

    Post # 5
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    183 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    So her previous +1 isn’t coming?  I say invite him and make your sister happy.  If it were anyone else besides your sis, be selfish and say no, but you don’t want to deal with a pissy BM/sister all day!  He can entertain himself!

    Post # 7
    Member
    2681 posts
    Sugar bee

    I would let her come especially since when she did have a boyfriend you were going to give her a +1.  And for the ceremony/cocktail hour, I wouldnt worry yourself with who he will sit near/talk to.  He will understand that by coming to the wedding he wont know anyone and he will probably start small talk with people he sits with.  If it were anyone else I would say no, but since its your sister I would let her bring him. 

    Post # 8
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    2725 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: September 2009

    I’d let him come. She’s your sister and you have an extra seat for him. Keep the family happy-you don’t  need any drama this week.

    Post # 9
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    445 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    Ask your sister if she would like him to come, and if he can handle being on his own for a lot of the day (since your sister will be busy!).  Remind her that he’ll be in all the pics and you’d like to always remember the day that you celebrated with family and loved ones. 

    When my sister got married back in 2006, I had been dating a guy for about a year.  He wanted to attend the wedding (for his own selfish reasons) and I was ready for him to come.  My sister asked me these same questions, and I realized I DIDN’T want him there!  We broke up before their wedding.

    Post # 10
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    2695 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: April 2010

    I would just let him come with her.  It will be her problem to figure where he sits and keep him entertained.  And besides that you won’t talk to your sister much that day once the ceremony gets started.  I hardly talked at all to my brother/and SIL (and I was MOH) once the wedding started.  They were busy greeting other people and I was busy covering their tracks and catching people they couldn’t make the rounds to talk with.

    Post # 11
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    102 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    Now that’s annoying. I know how you feel. My sister is the maid of honor and if she wanted to bring someone I didn’t even know, I would be pissed. But, she is part of the bridal party and I feel like they should be able to bring a date since they’ve done so much for us. Just have a talk with her and make sure she does her sisterly/bm duties and to not be busy entertaining her guest.

    Post # 12
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    7174 posts
    Busy Beekeeper

    Yes, definitely let her bring a date.  You never know if she has a tinge of ‘I wish that was happening to me’, and I think having a date will make her feel less of the ‘single’ sister.  But, besides that, don’t worry about the fact that you haven’t met the guy, etc etc.  I think it’s great you have a spot with him and the cousins and I’m sure he can figure out how to entertain himself while your sister is doing bridal party stuff.  It sounds perfect that logistically it will work out on such short notice.

    Have a great weekend 🙂

    Post # 13
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    2470 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    I would let him come… its your sister after all.

    Post # 14
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    424 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    I say let him come.

    Post # 15
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    1490 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: December 1969

    You’ve got space for him. Why be remembered as the selfish bride? This act of generosity will commend you in the eyes of your relatives forever.

    Post # 16
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    97 posts
    Worker bee
    • Wedding: September 2010

    Oh, I know that’s annoying! But, if he doesn’t mind sitting with people he doesn’t know, I say let him come. You want to be your happiest self on your wedding, and you would probably be happier if your sister wasn’t upset with you. I hope everything works out!

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