Post # 1
Our wedding is on Saturday, so I realize this is super last minute! 🙂
From day one of our engagement, I wanted the guys to wear tuxes without vests and a tie. The groomsmens’ tuxes are black with gray ties, and the groom’s tux is black with a black tie. None of them are wearing vests, including our dads and the ring bearers.
But now I’m starting to wonder if that will look dressy enough.
So, do I have all the men in the wedding wearing a tux without a vest? Or should I have just the dads wearing a vest? Or should everyone wear a vest? What do you think? I know it’s a matter of opinion, I just want the guys looking their best!
Post # 3
- Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall
@seattlefashionista: In my wedding, dad’s (and ushers) didn’t wear vests, just DH and GMs.
Post # 4
I think you’ll be fine with the tuxes and ties. My FI and his GM are wearing suits and ties, no vests.
Post # 5
@seattlefashionista: Personally I LOVE the look of a 3 piece suit. So that vest is a big plus to me. I think with a tux you’re SUPPOSED to wear EITHER the vest or the cumberbund. I mean of course, it’s your wedding, you can do whatever you want, but I think if you’re trying to make them look “right” and “formal” by other people’s standards, you need one or the other.
I personally do not care for the look of the cumberbund so vest all the way for me.
The other plus, IMO, is that when they take their jackets off (and that is a WHEN, because they WILL take their jackets off) they still look “buttoned up” with the vest, so pictures later in the night with dinner and danciing will still look nice.
Post # 6
Do they have cumberbunds? As far as I understand it, they should have one or the other!
Post # 7
I personally think you’ll be fine without changing anything at this point. I’ve been t o weddings where the men wore exactly what you’ve described, and they looked fine (great, even). A lot of men I’ve seen that wear vests to weddings end up unbuttoning them later in the evening anyway, and it usually looks pretty weird to have a vest flapping about as he dances.
Post # 8
@BrandNewBride: No cummerbunds I don’t think…
Post # 9
@shadowedpixie: Haha, oh dear! I never considered that because that possibility didn’t even occur to me. Ick! I couldn’t even imagine! My FI for sure will *not* be unbottoning the vest! (But he loves a good vest probably more than I do!) 😛
Post # 10
@Eradicatereality: Yeah, it’s so hard because I want them to look formal and “buttoned-up,” but at the same time there’s something about a vest that just bugs me. Maybe it reminds me too much of a high school dance? I don’t know. I went to a very fancy wedding last Saturday and the guys were wearing really nice tuxes with vests and bow ties. They all looked fantastic, but then again, these tuxes were custom-made by a very high end designer, so it could be because of that. The guys in our wedding are renting tuxes from Men’s Wearhouse (not knocking Men’s Wearhouse, they have beautiful formalwear for men, just not as fancy as a custom made tux!) You do have a great point about later in the night when the guys take off their jackets…
@shadowedpixie: Thanks for the advice! I agree, ill-fitting vests look awful!
Post # 11
Long ties? Leave it as is. Bow ties, add black cummerbunds on everyone.
Post # 12
@Eradicatereality: With a Tuxedo, one must wear a waist covering, however it must be black, and it must not be a standard 5-button vest, but a low cut, Tuxedo vest. One also MUST wear a bow tie, or you’re not in Black Tie, so once you abandon the black bow tie, which is the dress code’s namesake, you’re really down to saying “what looks good to me” instead of asking what’s correct.
OP, under no circumstances should you combine a cummerbund with a four in hand (long) tie.
Post # 13
@Duncan: +1 couldn’t agree more.
FI was just a groomsman this past weekend, and they had cummerbunds, but ONLY because of the bow ties. FI looked smokin, but I think cummerbunds look ridiculous unless you’re very slim like my honey.
@seattlefashionista: Vests = high school dance for me too (no offense to anyone who had them, of course!! that’s just what they make me think of). Go with your instinct all the way!
Post # 14
@Duncan: I don’t undersand. The vest is lower? So you don’t see it? Honestly, all the “modern” styled tuxedos look to me like they are cut more and more similar to modern suits
Which is making choosing what FI should wear for the wedding more and more difficult!
Plus, many wear regular ties with tuxes now, (even if it’s not “correct,” many people DO IT, and may look better for it) — I don’t think everyone can pull offa bow tie…
Post # 15
@seattlefashionista: go with your gut decision that you had initially made! It sounds phenomenal. Happy wedding day tomorrow!
Post # 16
@Duncan: This is kind of an archaic rule nowadays as long as the jacket is worn buttoned. (Hopefully everyone wears suspenders so it doesn’t look like they’re sagging their pants.) I’m all for waist coverings, but if it’s between a rental 5-button vest and nothing, I’d choose nothing.
It is important to note, though, that when the jacket is unbuttoned and you’re wearing a shirt with studs and a bib, you run into the problem where you have 3-4 studs at the top of the shirt then 2-3 regular buttons at the bottom. Looks stupid.