Last minute 'proposal' help

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 16
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1926 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2016

inamorata :  we didn’t do a big deal for our engagement but it didn’t take away from the specialness of it. We decided that if we bought a ring we were engaged. It was still a great day because we just spent it together.

As for Pumpkin picking in the UK, you can do that. I live in the east of England and it takes me just over 2 hours on a good run to get to the Midlands (M6 depending obviously). Anyway there’s a farm around the corner from me that is pick your own pumpkins. If you fancy a drive? 

Post # 17
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9132 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA

What other things do you guys enjoy doing as a couple?  What about if you go do one of those things, and have fun, and then trade rings, and then go out to dinner and celebrate?  For us, it’d be like go skiing, go on a hike, go to hot springs…

Or a quick night away somewhere close, like a mini staycation?  I live in a pretty rural area, but there are a few towns within a couple hours’ drive that I’d be psyched to go to for a staycation.  Rent a condo or an AirBnB (if you guys have that?) and do “local” activities.

Post # 22
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577 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

I get how you want it to be “extra special”, but honestly, anything you guys are going to do/where you will be, will be special because you are exchanging the rings signifying the promise of wanting to be together forever. How special is that already? The WHERE is so so unimportant.

I was just not too long ago driving myself CRAZY because every.single.thing. had to be “special” or “significant” etc etc. It doesn’t. I had NOT wanted to get married at the courthouse because it wasn’t pretty enough and i wanted it outside etc. But you know what, I just got married this past Tuesday at the JOP, where the building was behind a McDonalds for petes sake, not even in a fancy dress or anything of that nature, and it was one of the best days of my life. I honestly wouldn’t have changed anything. I think we get so worked up when we see things on TV or the internet of how a proposal “should” be, and we absolutely pine for that and need to have it, but honestly I don’t think most peoples stories are like that anyways.

Take all that for what it’s worth, but I just really had wanted to chime in and say that in my opinion, no matter what, it WILL be special 🙂 You do you though and try and make it exactly how you want it to be, but please do not stress over it because in the end all that doesn’t matter <3

Post # 24
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76 posts
Worker bee

i think trying to manufacture a really objectively good/aesthetically pleasing proposal will feel fake. Just plan a special date night. Maybe you could each write a letter to the other one about your hopes for the future and read it to each other on the date and then exchange rings. Honestly whenever I’ve tried to plan something in a really specific way with the pressure of it having to go/look a certain way, I’ve just felt weird. It’s never those moments where you have a lot of fun or feel very connected to someone.

Think of it as the difference between traveling somewhere and going to see the tourist sites so you can say you went there and check them off a list – often it feels very perfunctory right? You go to the place, you stand in line, you pay the money, you stand in another line, you see the thing, you say “ooh” and take a photo, CHECK. Now compare that to your happiest travel memories – usually they’re silly things like seeing something that’s an “in joke” in a shop and laughing about it, or a particularly great meal, or the time a song came on that you loved and you danced, etc…organic things that were “in the moment” and unplanned.

Post # 25
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8186 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: Dorset, UK

Firstly, I am sorry about your grandad. Also, even though you have got rings and kind of have agreed to get engaged (my and my SO are in the same boat) I get you still want a proposal to remember and be special .Also YES to Highgate. I am desperate to go. If that is not an option because the the funeral timing and travelling, could you go to a local beauty spot? It’s lovely an autumnal at the moment.

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