Post # 1
I am just curious if other Bees out there have experienced the same thing. I am getting married in 3 days and having a very small wedding. My guest list is right at 50 people. Just this past week I have had 4 people who initially said YES they were attending call us up and regret. WTF?? Why couldn’t they tell us before we paid for their food? I am finding it incredibly rude to cancel at the last minute. I understand last minute things that come up but these have all been pretty lame excuses. What bothers me the most is that with such a limited guest list, their "No" could have meant we invited another couple who we had to leave out. Am I right to be a little offended or am I just being too emotional?
Post # 3
Kinda both. You do have every right to be offended but then again, they may have a very important reason. Besides, that just means there will be left overs for you to take on the honey moon or take home and not worry about cooking LOL
Post # 4
Yea, it is kind of rude that they called last minute to say that they can’t come.. but something could have come up. at leats they did call to tell you instead of just not showing up….
Post # 5
Any chance your venue would let you ‘upgrade’ another part of the menu, instead of just having you lose the money on the missing people? For example, offering an extra passed hors d’oeuvres, or upgrading to a better pouring wine?
It is sad and disappointing about the last minute regrets, especially with lame excuses, but try not to let it put a cloud over you. (I’m sure my emotions will be overwhelming that last week, and I may react strongly to a lot of things that would normally roll off my back– will have to remember to take my own advice.) Just try to focus on the fact that you’ll be getting married to the man you love in just three days! So exciting!!!
Post # 6
Yeah, it sucks when that happens, but at least they did call. I had one guest email me and ask to bring her boyfriend– she actually said, "I’m sure it’s not a big deal, but my mom tells me I HAVE to ask…". I was kind of annoyed but told her that it was ok. I updated my head count and paid for both of them– and then neither of them shows. I was pretty ticked off.
Post # 7
Thanks for all of advice ladies! I think that my reasoning is a little impaired with the big day looming. I think I was just expecting a little more from people. Keep in mind our guest list is limited to immediate family and extremely close friends so I guess it hurts a little more with each regret. I think what I am going to take away from all of this is that next time I am a guest at a wedding I am going to RSVP on time and show up when I say I am!
Post # 8
i remember when my friend got married about 2 years ago, we (i was a BM) was walking to the car to go to the church and her brother (who was giving her away) got a phone call to say 3 people wont be showing up. at the time i thought how rude of them to wait for the latest possible moment to cancel. if you accept an invitation, especially when it costs someone for you to be there and unless you are in an accident, violently ill or been kidnapped you have to go is my thoughts
try not to let it bother you too much – look for the positives and enjoy