Post # 16
BizzzzyBee: You wedding catering sounds cool!
Just get her a huge falafel salad from somewhere. That way it is more than just salad. Or even a gourmet vegie wrap/sandwich which she can have with your sides. I think as a host the main thing is to make sure she gets a meal (other than sides) rather than trying to make it the exact same level as your other catering.
Post # 17
BizzzzyBee: Your crepe and BBQ stall maybe able to accomadate her. All they need to do is make a crepe batter with no eggs. She then would pick her own toppings berries and syrup. BBQ stall can have BBQ veggie skewers or BBQ Vegan burgers and vegan buns. You may have more problems with your canapes as most have a batter that would have eggs or a cracker possibly made with eggs. But maybe they can have apple slices with a carmel dip, strawberry on a skewer as a breakfast canape
I really think this is very doable, and your caterers should be able to do this at no extra cost to you. Expecially if you supply you BBQ vendor with a veggan burger and bun from grocery store for them to cook for her.
Post # 18
justagirlfirst: Thank you for this, its really helped. Have messaged my Aunt about the burger idea and she said no due to the vegan burgers containing rapeseed oil (she thinks that rape seed is bad because the farms used to cultivate these are then not being used by animals! she is on another level I tell you!) so I just said I will ask the BBQ vendor to bring some extra veg and just do a veg skewer and if she doesn’t like it…tough! I have had enough with her demands 🙂
Post # 19
I worked as an event coordinator at an Italian restaurant. Almost every party had some sort of special dietary restriction. The vegans were the most annoying.. Because it was an Italian restaurant. Everything has dairy and eggs in it!
We would literally just make the vegan a plate of fried veggies. We couldnt do anything else. The vegan never complained so if you’re aunt really cares about attending your wedding, she can either eat beforehand or have the plate of veggies and stfu.
Post # 20
Good Lord! She sounds like an absolute peach. I’ve got inlaws, with a narcissistic sense of entitlement, but she takes the cake.
Sounds like it would be better if she just attended the ceremony and then went home to prepare her own food. Tell her you’ll make sure she’ll get to see your wedding video.
Post # 21
+1 for the recommendations to talk to the caterer because it is not that difficult if the bbq stand is already doing some grilled veg, to ask them to make a plate of just grilled veg.
Post # 22
BizzzzyBee: First of all, who refuses to attend a wedding because of food? My friend’s husband is allergic to anything dairy and doesn’t like to take chances so he ate before he came and then only picked on things he was absolutely certain had no dairy in it. Never once did they threaten to not come or ask me to change my entire wedding to accommodate them.
She is rude, dramatic and demanding. I’m a vegetarian and I would never refuse to attend someone’s wedding or throw shade if there wasn’t something for me to eat. It’s not just about the food. Let her throw her little tantrum and sit at home and chew on cardboard.
Post # 23
I was vegan for a couple years and attended a couple weddings… I always packed my own food. Asking the bride and groom to pull their hair out for my dietary needs seems unfair, to me.
Post # 24
BizzzzyBee: have you tried speaking with your caterer? Most will make a special meal at no additional cost. She’s not asking you to change your meal options, just for one special meal to be made.
Post # 25
I second the suggestion to ask your caterer. I know mine will accomodate a vegan meal at no extra cost (and actually told me they could accomodate pretty much all restrictions except for kosher preparation). It wouldn’t hurt to ask. If not, boom – veggie skewer, done!
Post # 26
Thank you everyone for your help, I got fed up so just told her the BBQ will be going a veg skewer, you can have the canapes. If you don’t like it don’t worry about attending!