Post # 1
My girl and i have been talking about getting married.. we still have a lot to take care of before we are really ready for a wedding.. but we talk about it all the time. the one thing that we cant come to an agreement about is what we will pick for a last name. she wants to keep her last name and i want to keep my last name.. what do we do!?
Post # 3
Sounds like you should keep your last names 🙂
Post # 4
@Vidya: and what last name would our children take?
Post # 5
Maybe you can both hyphenate your lastnames! For example, if your last name is Jones and hers is Smith, it can be Jones-Smith if you’d like. That way you both get to share what belongs to you.
Post # 6
@mrsby2015: The plot thickens! Well, like MusiqueEstVie said, you can hyphenate names. Or if you both want to keep your seperate names, your children could have hyphenated names. You could make up a new name. Or combines names like my friend and his husband did when they got married, so if you’re Smith and she’s Jones, you could be the the Smones. 😛 Some names sound better than other in that option.
Post # 7
I kept my last name, and we’re planning on our children having a combo last name, like Vidya suggested 🙂
Post # 8
You could each make your last name your middle and come up with a new last name, or pick one last name for your kids. If you were Mary Jones and she was Cara Lewis you could decide Jones would be the family name and she’d make her name Cara Lewis Jones.
@Vidya: I just did the combo name thing with mine and FI’s last names and burst out laughing. i can see it being awesome if it works though.
Post # 9
My Fiance and I had this same issue. I’m very attached to my last name partly because I have an amazing family and also I feel like my last name ties me to my Mexican heritage and I don’t want to lose that. Fiance doesn’t want to take my last name and I refuse to take hers mainly because of my attachment to my name but also her family doesn’t support us. Why would I want to take the name of a family that doesn’t want me. So, we are keeping our own last names. We have talked about having kids in the future and have both decided we will deal with that issues when it happens. However, I think we will end up just hyphenating our last names for the kids.
Post # 10
We will hyphenate our surnames, thankfully they’re both short!
Post # 11
@viewfrmhere: This is what we’re doing. So:
LittleRiver Smith + Fiance Jones become
LittleRiver Smith Jones (Ms. Smith Jones)
LittleRiver & Fiance Jones
Our children will have the last name Jones.
OP, I think you should each keep your names for now. You can always change them later (via court order) when you have children if you decide that you want to have a single family name.
Post # 12
I am taking on my honeys last name my kids are 19 and 18 from my ex husband I only kept his last name after I divorced I’m 98 for my kids sake. So I’m ditching the name and taking on my honeys name legally here in Mass