Post # 17
I can hardly wait for the day that I can finally change my last name to FIs. I am currently “stuck” with my ex-husband’s last name, which is not what I wanted more than 20 years ago, but that’s what was recommended by my divorce attorney. My middle name is my maiden name. What’s sad is that there are no boys in my family in my generation to carry on my maiden name. Our son was still a baby, and my lawyer said that it would make things so much easier once he started school. It didn’t.
Post # 18
I’m probably taking it, but I like the way it sounds with my first name better than my current last name.
If you don’t want to take his last name, you shouldn’t feel pressured to do it!
Post # 19
I am taking his last name. I never once considered NOT taking his name. “Who I am” is not tied up in my last name. Besides his My First Name + His Last Name has a way better ring to it than My First Name + My Maiden Name.
Post # 20
I’m taking his last name. I’m not particularly attached to mine, and I want to be part of the H family. Plus, I want our kids to have the same last name. I didn’t have the same last name as my mother (divorced parents) growing up, and that was always a huge pain in the ass.
Had I married my ex (ewwwww), I would not have taken his last name. Mostly because he wanted me to (like, got into a fight with me about it), and I hated his last name.
Post # 21
I’m taking his last name and keeping my maiden name as a second middle name. It wasn’t something I had ever planned to do, but its really important to him.
Post # 22
My H made it very clear that a woman that wouldn’t take his name wouldn’t be a woman he’d marry.
I had no problems taking his name. Cleave and leave. I am very secure in who I am, therefore, regardless of what my last name is, I am still me. I’m not giving anything up. I woke up the day after my wedding with a new last name and the same personality.
Post # 23
I struggled with thinking about changing it too. I have two whole years until I have to do it, lol, but still. My last name is the same as a very prominent Sioux advocate and is indeed Native American. I’m very proud of it, but I don’t like that it’s my father’s last name. He did nothing to raise me and I resent his existence.
My FI’s last name is very, very common and Germanic. Everyone misprounces AND misspells my last name which I never understood because it’s a common word(!) but nobody misspells or mispronounces his. I struggled with thinking about switching from something unique to something very run of the mill, but it’s my FI’s name and I love him to pieces. I settled with taking it because I want to be a family unit with him. No hyphens, no maiden name as a middle name. Just him.
Post # 24
@tynakinnon: Your identity isn’t tied up in a name. You’re still the same person with the same morals, values, and beliefs. For me, taking my FI’s name was a symbolic gesture of our union. I still feel the same – because I am. I never even considered not taking his name because I want our family until to be the same and I don’t care for hyphens.
We are common law and I already have his name. I was excited about taking it and for all intents and purposes, he is my husband. We call each other husband and wife already. Our weddingmoon is just an excuse to take a lavish trip and deal with the formality of being “legally” married.
My Fiance said the same thing as your partner and I also had no problem with it. I intended to take it all along.
Post # 25
@tynakinnon: My name has been mine my whole life, and I’m very attached to it. I’m the last person in my family to have it. My degrees and published works are in said name. Luckily, hubby thinks taking the man’s last name is bullshit, so he’s not at all offended.
Post # 26
@tynakinnon: I’m a little sad about “loosing” my maiden name, it’s been my name for 23+ years and after the wedding, I’ll have a different name. It’s weird to think that it will no longer “be” my name, but to me taking FH’s last name is all of a part of getting married, I feel it’s just something I’m meant to do (IMO) But of course that doesn’t mean it’s right for everyone and you have to, it’s ultimately your choice!
Post # 27
I will be taking his last name. It isn’t even a question for me. I am attached to my family name however I feel it is the right thing to do to take my FH last name. Also we already have a child so I want us all to have the same last name. I have two brothers and a nephew who will carry on my dad’s name.
Post # 28
I love my last name. I also love my SO last’s name. I’m adding a hyphen to my last name and adding his. That way I still can have my idenity and I take his name. It’s a win-win. So, it will go from Meagan N. Ozuna to Meagan N. Ozuna-Stovicek. The name is kinda long but well worth it.
Post # 29
I agree that it is a personal choice, but I am very traditional in this sense. I am all in and can’t wait to have my future husbands name and he is very excited about sharing it with me as well.
Post # 30
I plan on taking his and changing my name legally so that his name is the only one I will have.
When I was married before I didn’t actually change my name, I just assumed it in some places but for the most part I kept my maiden name. I don’t think I was ready to give my name up and I really didn’t like having his family name.
Post # 31
I’m not changing my name. I’ve had the same name for the past 25 years. Why would I change it now because of an old tradition?