Last name changes

posted 1 year ago in Etiquette
  • poll: How did you change your last name?

    Hyphenated: husband’s last name first, then yours

    Hyphenated: your last name first, then husband’s

    Dropped your last name and assumed husband’s

    Kept your last name.

  • Post # 31
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2021 - Concord, Ontario

    I’m planning on dropping my last names and just assuming my wife’s last name.

    Post # 32
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    Sugar Beekeeper

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    @mrspineapple21:  

    Yes l had friends who did this too. I was so impressed. We dont’t have children so my keeping my own name ( l would never have taken his, already did that for my first marriage…say no more.. )  was never on .
    If we had had children we would have had to rethink and hyphenate . All of us, the idea that l change and the kids got his name would have been absolutely not acceptable to either of us. 

     

    Post # 33
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2019

    My husband and I BOTH hyphenated. We went with his name then mine, purely because it sounded better. We love that we did this. Our children will obviously have the same hyphenated name, but we have discussed that if when they are grown up they want to drop part of then name then we will both be completely ok with that and with whichever name they want to keep

    Post # 34
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: Los Angeles

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    @Twizbe:  has he always gone by both names? Does he ever just use one? He signs with both together right? 

    Post # 35
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    Helper bee

    I don’t have a middle name, so my maiden name became my middle name. And I took his last name. No hyphens. Worked out perfectly.

    Post # 36
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    Bumble bee

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    @Lorena1:  first marriage I simply added my husbands su r name so essentially  my maiden name became a middle name. When we divorced I just took his name back off. 

    This time I am going to take my husbands surname only, as my relationship with my father has changed so I feel less loyalty to it. Plus, my other names are french, and so is fh surname, so they flow nicely. 

     

    I feel like there is no perfect way, except what works for you 

    Post # 37
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: July 2011

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    @Ciebtobe:  yep. It’s a really old double barrel and it’s our name. He is the 5th generation with this surname.

    if I have to sign up to a free WiFi somewhere I’ll just use one of the names but that is laziness and an attempt to not use my actual name to get spammed with crap lol

    Post # 38
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    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

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    @Lorena1:  Kept my maiden name and I have no plans on changing it 

    Post # 39
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2020 - Titusville, FL

    I love my maiden name, but it was a bit complicated to spell and people could never say it correctly…. now as a Smith, everyone and everybody knows how to spell and say my last name! I’m so happy I decided to change it.

    Post # 40
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2020

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    @Lorena1:  keeping last name and kids will have both 

    Post # 41
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2020

    I originally wanted to keep my maiden name, but we’re different races and odds are our children are not going to look much like either of us, and I wanted to go ahead and eliminate as much confusion there as possible. Plus he just has a fun last name 😉

    I’m probably going to make my maiden name my “middle” name on social media because I personally get so confused when people suddenly change their name 😆

    Post # 42
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    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2020

    I love the idea of both people hyphenating! I would go with what flows best like PP suggested. 

    Post # 43
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: October 2020

    My fiancé will be taking my last name. Super happy since my name is very rare and has a lot of significance to me whereas his is a super common last name.

    Post # 44
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: June 2020

    Personally my last name went so well with my name but I felt like personally as his wife I should take it and I was going to hyphenate but his name is long. I like things the traditional way and I feel like a new life with him should have a little change. 

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