Post # 1
How did you all decide on what last name you were going to use? I’d also like to know your reasoning.
Personally, I haven’t decided yet. My FH wants me to use his last name but, it doesn’t sound good together and I personally don’t morally agree with it. I asked him if he would change his last name and of course he immediately said “no” and I pointed out that was exactly how I felt. So, we are still discussing it. Maybe we’ll merge last names to make a new last name!
Post # 2
I wanted a name that wouldn’t be mispronounced. He has that, so I will be taking his name. I also just wanted to take his last name.
Post # 3
I changed my last name, but I regret it. I only did it because if we were to have kids I would want us all to have the same last name. Since it’s only been a little over a month, I’m hoping I eventually come to like my new name, but honestly if I could redo it, I would keep my maiden name. I think it’s fine for both of you to keep your last names, but you need to discuss what name you will use for any future children. That might be a bit of an argument.
Post # 4
Y’all should do what makes you happy. If his last name doesn’t go well with your first name, then there’s no reason you have to change it. Just decide what y’all want to do for potential children and call it good.
As someone with a crazy joring first and last name, I love BF’s last name to a ridiculous extent, plus it goes well with my name, so I can’t wait to change it, even though it’s a lot of paperwork to file at the office lol.
Post # 5
Oh, we are skipping having any children. Not for us, so for me its more of a consideration that my family line ends with me. I’m the last one with my last name and I’m rather attached to it. It’s also my name for professional reasons.
Post # 6
I liked his last name so I changed it. If I didnt like it i would have kept mine. I joke with him and say if we were ever to divorce im keeping his last name
If you don’t like the the idea of changing your name then don’t do it.
Post # 7
I never changed my name legally, but did use his name when I got a new job. Now that we are splitting up, I’ve started using my maiden name at work and am very glad I never changed it.
Post # 8
I took my husband’s last name but I still add in my maiden name on everything. I just sign “Bee123456789 maiden name husbands name”. I couldn’t change my middle name because I go by it.
Post # 9
I’m not changing my last name. I always thought I would, but I’m now vehemently opposed to it (for me). My dad is the best example of a man I’ve ever known, and I’m proud to have his name. I think it’s a very personal decision, and you have to go with what you feel in your heart is right for YOU, whatever that may be.
Post # 10
It was never a question i would take his last name. I ditched my middle name and made my maiden name my new middle name.
Post # 11
I changed my name the first time I got married. I reverted to my maiden name after my divorce. I’m not messing with my name again!
Post # 12
I am attached to my name and never considered changing it. DH voiced his disappointment somewhat regularly after we got married and I came up with the compromise that I would hyphenate if he did as well. He hasn’t shut the idea down but I really doubt he will come around to it. Fine with me, I would rather keep my name as is.
Post # 13
I originally wanted to move my maiden name to my middle name and take his last name, but the person at the social security office said it would cause problems for me at the DMV 🙄 so I just changed it to his last name. I like that we have the same last name but I honestly regret that I wasn’t able to keep my maiden name.
Post # 14
Haven’t entirely finalized my decision yet, but 90% that I am going to hyphenate my name, and future children will have FIs last name.
If we were not planning on having children, I would just keep my last name.
Post # 15
If you’re really attached, I think you should just keep your maiden name. I’m someone that would keep mine if I liked it and also since the name will die out in my generation since I only have a sister and female cousins (my kids would then have a hyphenated name).
But I’m not attached to my name at all. It’s swedish (DNA test says I’m not even 1% scandanavian) and I am not close to most of my family members.