(Closed) Last Name Conundrum

posted 4 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: What last name did you pick?

    Took my husband's last name.

    Kept my own last name.

    Changed my last name but, my maiden name is now my middle name.

    Both changed our last names

    Something else. Describe below.

  • Post # 2
    1034 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: City, State

    I wanted a name that wouldn’t be mispronounced. He has that, so I will be taking his name. I also just wanted to take his last name. 

    Post # 3
    251 posts
    Helper bee

    I changed my last name, but I regret it. I only did it because if we were to have kids I would want us all to have the same last name. Since it’s only been a little over a month, I’m hoping I eventually come to like my new name, but honestly if I could redo it, I would keep my maiden name. I think it’s fine for both of you to keep your last names, but you need to discuss what name you will use for any future children. That might be a bit of an argument. 

    Post # 4
    1697 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    Y’all should do what makes you happy. If his last name doesn’t go well with your first name, then there’s no reason you have to change it. Just decide what y’all want to do for potential children and call it good.  

    As someone with a crazy joring first and last name, I love BF’s last name to a ridiculous extent, plus it goes well with my name, so I can’t wait to change it, even though it’s a lot of paperwork to file at the office lol.

    Post # 6
    368 posts
    Helper bee

    I liked his last name so I changed it. If I didnt like it i would have kept mine. I joke with him and say if we were ever to divorce im keeping his last name tongue-out

    If you don’t like the the idea of changing your name then don’t do it. 

    Post # 7
    2170 posts
    Buzzing bee

    I never changed my name legally, but did use his name when I got a new job. Now that we are splitting up, I’ve started using my maiden name at work and am very glad I never changed it.

    Post # 8
    1385 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: March 2017

    I took my husband’s last name but I still add in my maiden name on everything. I just sign “Bee123456789 maiden name husbands name”. I couldn’t change my middle name because I go by it.

    Post # 9
    2847 posts
    Sugar bee

    I’m not changing my last name. I always thought I would, but I’m now vehemently opposed to it (for me). My dad is the best example of a man I’ve ever known, and I’m proud to have his name. I think it’s a very personal decision, and you have to go with what you feel in your heart is right for YOU, whatever that may be.

    Post # 10
    1191 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2017

    It was never a question i would take his last name.  I ditched my middle name and made my maiden name my new middle name.

    Post # 11
    1037 posts
    Bumble bee

    I changed my name the first time I got married. I reverted to my maiden name after my divorce. I’m not messing with my name again! 

    Post # 12
    320 posts
    Helper bee

    I am attached to my name and never considered changing it. DH voiced his disappointment somewhat regularly after we got married and I came up with the compromise that I would hyphenate if he did as well. He hasn’t shut the idea down but I really doubt he will come around to it. Fine with me, I would rather keep my name as is. 

    Post # 13
    206 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2017

    I originally wanted to move my maiden name to my middle name and take his last name, but the person at the social security office said it would cause problems for me at the DMV 🙄 so I just changed it to his last name. I like that we have the same last name but I honestly regret that I wasn’t able to keep my maiden name. 

    Post # 14
    603 posts
    Busy bee

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    jellybeanjean :  Haven’t entirely finalized my decision yet, but 90% that I am going to hyphenate my name, and future children will have FIs last name.

    If we were not planning on having children, I would just keep my last name.

    Post # 15
    1199 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: May 2018

    If you’re really attached, I think you should just keep your maiden name. I’m someone that would keep mine if I liked it and also since the name will die out in my generation since I only have a sister and female cousins (my kids would then have a hyphenated name). 

    But I’m not attached to my name at all. It’s swedish (DNA test says I’m not even 1% scandanavian) and I am not close to most of my family members.


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