Last Name Conundrum

posted 2 years ago in Traditions
  • poll: What last name did you pick?
    Took my husband's last name. : (81 votes)
    44 %
    Kept my own last name. : (54 votes)
    30 %
    Changed my last name but, my maiden name is now my middle name. : (36 votes)
    20 %
    Both changed our last names : (7 votes)
    4 %
    Something else. Describe below. : (5 votes)
    3 %
  • Post # 76
    187 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: November 2018

    I’m a traditional girl……. I will be taking his last name.

    Post # 77
    60 posts
    Worker bee

    I would personally think very carefully about marrying someone who insists on YOU changing your identity, but won’t even consider changing his. It’s not 1955 anymore, dude.

    Post # 78
    283 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2018

    I’ll be adding his name to mine and have my maiden name become a second middle name.  In my family, we tend to give family surnames as middle names (my current middle name is my grandma’s maiden name), so I’ll just have two surname middle names.  Also makes it easy to keep up my professional identity because my current last name will still be part of my name and I can just not use my official new surname for that stuff (and not have to print new business cards).

    That’s more or less what my mom did, although when she took my dad’s name, she used the opportunity to ditch the first half of her double barreled southern first name that she never used.

    Hyphenating is absolutely out of the question.  I had a couple of grade school classmates with hideously awkward hyphenated last names and I always felt sorry for them for having such doofy ugly last names that would be MUCH improved if they had just one or the other instead of both glued together.  Even though the hyphenation of my name and my fiance’s name would be pretty tame, I hate the concept in general.

    Post # 79
    363 posts
    Helper bee

    Keeping my last name – which is my father’s first name. My family has no surname so it really doesn’t matter. I only have one name. For business/papers, I write in my father’s first name as a last name.

    I could take his name but he is against women taking husband’s last names because he feels it isn’t fair that most men wouldn’t change their names for a woman. While I roll my eyes, I give him A+ for trying to make equality more ‘normalized’. Ok good job. IDC either way but I’m happy keeping my last name since adding his name to my surname would sound really weird in my culture as if I was born to his parents/family. It would make us sound like siblings. Don’t work like that.

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