(Closed) Last post from me for the day, sorry but need more advice on bridesmaid…

posted 6 years ago in Bridesmaids
  • poll: What would you do?
    Go out of town, if it's what you want than do it : (22 votes)
    88 %
    Stay in town and find something fun to do to make her happy too : (2 votes)
    8 %
    other ideas? : (1 votes)
    4 %
  • Post # 3
    2104 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    Honestly, it’s your bachelorette party, so I’m of the belief that the party should involve things you want to do.  It’s supposed to be your last night out as a “single” woman.  When she gets married, she can have a lovely bachelorette party in whichever town she wants.  

    Post # 4
    11747 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    This is your wedding and bachelorette, it should be about what YOU want to do, not what your Bridesmaid or Best Man wants to do.  If she doesn’t want to go, so be it. You’ll have fun with the rest of your girls!

    Post # 5
    14661 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2011

    Your wants dont seem unreasonable at all.  Do what you want.  Seems like it would be more convient to go downtown if its closer to the hotel you have to be at anyways.

    Post # 6
    2355 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: April 2018

    Do want you want to do! If you want to go to the city, go to the city.

    On the other hand- Just be careful about how much you and your girls are drinking! With your party the night before the wedding, the *last* thing you want on your wedding day is for you or anyone in your bridal party to be hung over.

    Post # 7
    46590 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: November 1999

    There are always alternaives. Is there a place that you can park the car enroute to the bar area where it will be safe, then take a cab to the bar area? After you are done partying, you take a cab back to the car and the Dirty Delete drives home.

    Post # 8
    2363 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2013 - B&B

    Unless your other 3 girls have a problem with this city, then I say go to the city you want. If all of your bm’s had reservations, I would say maybe you need to compromise, but if she’s the only one, I am of the opinion its just one night and its your night, and she really should try to go along with it.

    Post # 9
    1238 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2013

    I agree with everyone else…  45 minutes away is not a big deal.  Try to counter her arguments- like the Dirty Delete can’t get lost bc EVERYBODY has GPS/smart phones now, plus you can’t get crazy out of control (and forget how to get home) since you are getting married the next day!

    Keep trying to bring up how much fun it would be and how you really want to go there and I bet she’d give in eventually.

    Post # 11
    433 posts
    Helper bee


    If she doesn’t want to go then she doesn’t have to.  Just invite a group of friends and say whoever wants to join you is welcome to come.  If she’s going to be that uncomfortable don’t force her to go because she’ll be a total downer.

    Is your 18 year old friend going to be allowed in the places where you’re going?  I don’t know how it is in the states but in Canada she wouldn’ve even be allowed to step foot in a bar or pub if she’s underage.  If that’s the case, it’s probably pretty rude to expect her to Dirty Delete and just sit in the car while you all drink your faces off inside.

    Post # 12
    165 posts
    Blushing bee
    • Wedding: April 2013

    go to savannah! I love nights on the twn there. 

    Post # 13
    241 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: August 2013

    Also, keep in mind that because your Dirty Delete is 18, he or she may not be able to enter a bar because of liquor licensing issues – don’t go somewhere she’ll get stranded!

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