Post # 1
So I have 4 bridesmaids. One of them lives in my town (in South Carolina) my Maid/Matron of Honor lives in Michigan and the other two bridesmaids live in Florida. So planning the bachelorette party online with my BMs and it has to be the night before the wedding because well my BMs wont have too much time here before they have to go back home.
We live in a small town so for the bachelorette party I was wanting to go to a city, and I love the closest city to us. They have River Street which is a string of bars all on the river in the middle of down town. It’s my favorite place to go have a night on the town. One Bridesmaid or Best Man is only 18 so she wont be able to drink and will be able to be the Dirty Delete. The place I want to go is 45 minutes away.
Well the bridesmaid who lives here isn’t down with that idea. Says she’s afraid and if we do go there that she wont drink because the Dirty Delete doesn’t know her way around and might get us lost (I know the area very well and you only take 3 streets from there to the hotel the wedding is at, albeit they are long roads)
She says cars get stolen there. She keeps giving reasons to just stay in town for the bachelorette party. But our town is a ghost town really. Not to mention in our downtown area there has been a string of rapes late at night so it doesn’t sound much safer.
I was really looking forward to going out of town for the bachelorette party. To River Street. It’s so much fun but now I don’t know if I will enjoy it if she’s not happy while we are there. I don’t know what to do.
I’m a homebody, but she’s an extreme homebody. Such a nice woman, very caring but afraid of doing something different. Advice? What would you do?
Post # 3
Honestly, it’s your bachelorette party, so I’m of the belief that the party should involve things you want to do. It’s supposed to be your last night out as a “single” woman. When she gets married, she can have a lovely bachelorette party in whichever town she wants.
Post # 4
This is your wedding and bachelorette, it should be about what YOU want to do, not what your Bridesmaid or Best Man wants to do. If she doesn’t want to go, so be it. You’ll have fun with the rest of your girls!
Post # 5
Your wants dont seem unreasonable at all. Do what you want. Seems like it would be more convient to go downtown if its closer to the hotel you have to be at anyways.
Post # 6
Do want you want to do! If you want to go to the city, go to the city.
On the other hand- Just be careful about how much you and your girls are drinking! With your party the night before the wedding, the *last* thing you want on your wedding day is for you or anyone in your bridal party to be hung over.
Post # 7
There are always alternaives. Is there a place that you can park the car enroute to the bar area where it will be safe, then take a cab to the bar area? After you are done partying, you take a cab back to the car and the Dirty Delete drives home.
Post # 8
- Wedding: September 2013 - B&B
Unless your other 3 girls have a problem with this city, then I say go to the city you want. If all of your bm’s had reservations, I would say maybe you need to compromise, but if she’s the only one, I am of the opinion its just one night and its your night, and she really should try to go along with it.
Post # 9
I agree with everyone else… 45 minutes away is not a big deal. Try to counter her arguments- like the Dirty Delete can’t get lost bc EVERYBODY has GPS/smart phones now, plus you can’t get crazy out of control (and forget how to get home) since you are getting married the next day!
Keep trying to bring up how much fun it would be and how you really want to go there and I bet she’d give in eventually.
Post # 10
@julies1949: They have numerous parking garages down there. I’ve parked down there at least 20 times in the last two years. The only time I had a problem was on Halloween a couple years back. Halloween is a CRAZY night down there though, and the problem was I didn’t park in a garage (they were all full) and parked in a lot. Someone somehow hit my car to where it pulled the corner of the bumber out but no other damage was done. No other problems there ever though. Especially not in the parking garages that are only a 5 minute walk from river street.
Thank you all for your input. I am a person though that will feel guilty and go out of my way the whole night to try to make anyone who isn’t having fun, have fun. The night will end up being about her much more than about me. I am stuck. I don’t want to feel responsible for her fun, but I really want to go there.
Post # 11
If she doesn’t want to go then she doesn’t have to. Just invite a group of friends and say whoever wants to join you is welcome to come. If she’s going to be that uncomfortable don’t force her to go because she’ll be a total downer.
Is your 18 year old friend going to be allowed in the places where you’re going? I don’t know how it is in the states but in Canada she wouldn’ve even be allowed to step foot in a bar or pub if she’s underage. If that’s the case, it’s probably pretty rude to expect her to Dirty Delete and just sit in the car while you all drink your faces off inside.
Post # 12
go to savannah! I love nights on the twn there.
Post # 13
Also, keep in mind that because your Dirty Delete is 18, he or she may not be able to enter a bar because of liquor licensing issues – don’t go somewhere she’ll get stranded!