(Closed) Last to be engaged?

posted 5 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@VaVaVoomBee:  Maaaaybe they’ll be EXTRA excited because they haven’t had anything to do with a wedding by that time! (I’m not saying it’s going to be ages, but I just mean based off of your worry that it’ll be years and they won’t be into it.) They’ll be like, “Ohhh, I remember planning my wedding! I’m so jealous that you get to do it now, it was so much fun!” And then you’ll get tons of unsolicited advice about how you should / shouldn’t do it based on how their own weddings went! But I bet they’ll be part of it. And if they’re not, it’s entirely possible that at that point you’ll have different friends because of life’s natural progressions and you’ll be the first to get married among them, or they’ll be different types of people and THEY will be totally into it!

Post # 4
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1471 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2015

@VaVaVoomBee:  If they’re your true friends, they will be excited for you.  Don’t worry!  Plus, you know the saying, save the best for last. πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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652 posts
Busy bee

@VaVaVoomBee:  I always say, ” save the best for last” 

as a matter of fact, people Will remember more of your wedding because of the time:)

Post # 7
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@VaVaVoomBee:  Ha! Trust me, that is one of the most tame and rational “rants” I’ve ever seen on here.  You’re good.

 

First of all, welcome to the Bee!

 

To answer your question, I think you have a legitimate concern that some people might give you the “been there, done that attitude.”  I see it with my friends having kids:  the new moms will be nervous or excited about something and a mom with one or two kids will scoff “oh, I remember when *I* used to worry about stuff like that….” etc, kind of raining on their parade when they only have one kid themselves and arent exactly what I’d call parenting “experts.”

 

But my thought is, who cares?  If someone has that big of a superiority insecurity/complex that they’d try to dumb down someone elses excitement, they arent someone I’d pay much mind to.

 

 

 

Post # 8
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131 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

I am the last of my friends to get engaged and all but a couple of my friends have babies now! They’re all still excited for me and most are even joining me at my b-party (husbands are watching the kids for a night!).

 

If they are your friends, they’ll be excited no matter what!

Post # 9
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2390 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Not only were all my college friends married before I was, the 4 of them had had 18 children and some were in high school by the time I got ENGAGED.  People follow different paths in life.  It’s not a contest.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

@VaVaVoomBee:  If they are true and decent friends they will be genuinely excited for you no matter what.

Post # 13
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1541 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

@VaVaVoomBee:  1st off: you have to be prepared for some “finally” comments. I’m almost 6 years with SO, and I know those comments will come my way. Just try and think of it as they knew you guys were meant to be for years now and happy you guys are “finally” engaged.  They wouldn’t say finally if they thought you weren’t a good match, right?

I think some of your friends may have the “been there done that” attitude, but maybe it’s a better idea to get married when everyone else isn’t. If you have 5 friends getting married in the same summer, yours maybe get forgotten in the mix of it all. Atleast now yours will stand out as possibly the one wedding around that time

Post # 15
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

@VaVaVoomBee:  I’m married and was among the first (and only) of my close friends.  If it makes you feel better, I can’t wait for them to start getting engaged so we can have fun!  My friends with children or who have been married already were all still excited for me.  At the end of the day though, no one (single, married, engaged, with or without children) will be as excited as you are about your wedding. 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

My Fiance and I dated for 6 years before getting engaged. Our parents were excited for us and friends, but no one was “THRILLED” I mean, it will be exciting for you when it happens! And that’s all that matters!

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