Late 20s and changing your timeline for TTC?

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

We did!

We originally planned to start TTC this year (at 28). But then when we actually got to 28 decided it felt too soon and have pushed TTC back at least 2 years. Our biggest reason was that we just didn’t feel ready yet. We are still enjoying the kid-free life and don’t feel in a rush to become parents. 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I did – my exH and I had planned to start TTC around age 32. Then he started pushing it back, and we ended up getting divorced (that was a contributing factor but there were many reasons).

So then I was 33 and single and worried about my plans for a family 🙁 Happily, I started dating an amazing guy not too long after the divorce. I just turned 36, and now we are married and expecting our first baby in a couple weeks. 

I was definitely a little concerned about fertility, but we were lucky and I got pregnant the first cycle that we tried. 

You should read this article – it is VERY informative and illuminating. https://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2013/07/how-long-can-you-wait-to-have-a-baby/309374/

Post # 5
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

We changed it because Dh wanted to and at first I didn’t but I’m glad we did now. I’m 26 he’s 34 and I want to start trying and hopefully have one before 30. He didn’t feel ready and wants to have more money (he’s getting a raise next year) which is always good so that’s why we’re waiting. It was never even a thought or an option to either of us until we were married and bought our own home so we could provide stability for our future child. The finances, insurance, and leave time are all covered already so thank goodness that isn’t a stressing factor. 

Post # 6
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

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bettydraper23 :  My Mother-In-Law hints at wanting us to have kids occasionally but other than that no one mentions it to us, so no I don’t feel any pressure.

I’m also not concerned about my fertility. I haven’t had any health problems to indicate possible issues, I have regular periods, and no history of fertility problems in my family (my mom had me at 30 and my brother at 33 and my aunt had my cousin at 36). The studies that people often reference in regards to fertility in your 30s used incredibly outdated data and aren’t accurate. Most women really don’t have any problems getting pregnant in their 30s.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

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hikingbride :  family fertility is no guarantee of personal fertility. My family are all fine in terms of having babies, my mum had me at 32 and got pregnant as soon as she wanted. 

We are healthy and I have super regular cycles. Took me 2.5 years to get pregnant with my first (started trying at 29) and 6 months for my second (34) 

you never know how long it will take you to get pregnant HOWEVER I wouldn’t advise trying earlier than you feel ready just because you MIGHT have issues. 

Post # 8
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

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Twizbe :  I’m aware of that. I didn’t list it because I think it means it’s a certainty I won’t struggle I listed it more as a I don’t have this added concern on my list. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2016

Yep! When we were 26, we started talking about getting engaged, married, and having kids (2) all in the next 5 years. We got married at 28, but have pushed back TTC until 31, 32 at least. (We’re 30 now.) We just bought a home last year and live in the highest COL city, and I’m also really enjoying living comfortably kid-free for the time being. My husband is supportive of the choice but would have had kids yesterday if it were up to him!

Post # 12
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Buzzing bee

 My husband and I were literally just talking about this today. We are celebrating our two year anniversary and according to our original timeline we should have had a kid by now. We wanted to start right away but things just didn’t work out that way. We are starting to try now but stuff happens. You have to do what works best for you! 

Post # 13
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Blushing bee

I’m not TTC and have no children but I always thought that I wanted to have children in my mid to late 20’s. Now that I am in my mid 20’s I would like to wait until about 30 to TTC.

Post # 14
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Helper bee

I’m totally with you!! I’ll be 30 in a few months and I don’t feel ready at all.. partially for money reasons (daycare will be about what we’re able to save per month now… so we’ll just save nothing? Doesn’t sound appealing.) we also want to travel and just enjoy our time being married! I’m hoping that in a couple years I will get “a feeling” that I am ready and want to raise a Child because I thought I’d be ready around this time but I definitely am not! 

Post # 15
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: April 2017

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bettydraper23 :  I actually had the opposite experience. I always figured I’d start trying at 30/31 but I am 29 and pregnant on our first try. My husband really wanted to start sooner than later as alot of his co-workers wives had fertility issues and I think it freaked him out, plus he is concerned about parents getting older. I am so happy we didn’t wait any longer. Our situation is not ideal. We have a very healthy savings account but live in a very expensive city so we don’t own a home yet but live with my parents for free as there is lots of extra space and hubby is in school for 2 years. I couldn’t be happier and I am so glad I didn’t wait but I think it is different for everyone. Do what YOU want because once pregnant you will be emotional and not feeling great so you should be very happy and confident with your choice and timing 🙂

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