Late 20s and still single

posted 3 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 2
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52 posts
Worker bee

I know a bunch of women in their late 20’s early thirties who are currently single, you are not alone : )

I am a single mother (although I have a long term boyfriend now) but I have had those thoughts of maybe not meeting someone, and it’s really upsetting.

The best advice I can give is – do you, have the mindset that “I won’t be single for long so I better enjoy my me time” think as in this first six months of the year is all about you – getting fit, organised, girls nights, long hot bubble baths, spend a bit extra on getting your hair done or a facial, take a cooking class or train for a marathon or fun run, re-arrange and re-decorate your appartment, declutter and organise your home, car and life – read, go see live music, have a girls weekend away. 

This will not only inhance all areas of your life, but help you move on from this previous relationship, and refresh yourself for the right man to enter your life.

Doing you (as in what I have mentioned) is also very attractive to the opposite sex, ever hear the saying “they always come when your not looking” ?? This is basically it, you get so busy and happy doing you and soaking up your little time as a hash tag single independent women that a man see this and goes “wow” fast forward six months your cosy on the couch with your honey happy, but greatful you had that time with yourself before he swooped you off your feet. Please believe me when I say – this works.

Also read these books which helped me, If you have read them already, read them again! Haha

– Textbook Romance by Zoe Foster

– It’s called a break up because it’s broken

– The secret (some people wouldn’t agree but read it anyway)

– The law of attraction 

– Act like a lady think like a man

– It’s just a date

 

Also, mediation and yoga, I like looking on YouTube for them as they are free and easy, there are ones about relaxing, Better sleep, attracting a soul mate – not all would like it or agree perhaps but honestly why not try it! 

 

Hope this helps! Be postive, this is a little rough patch but you will not being single forever, his out there make you and your life so wonderfull so he can find you and never let you go ! Xx

 

Post # 3
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1300 posts
Bumble bee

I found myself newly single at 30 after being with my ex for 11 years. Yeah it sucked but after being sad about it I decided to just focus on me and enjoy my time alone. Three years later I am married to an amazing man. Don’t lose hope bee!

Post # 4
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3438 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

I met my Fiance at 32 and we’ll be married in a few months (I’ll be turning 35 this year). It’s never too late to meet the right person for you. Until then, as PP said, focus on yourself and keep up the hobbies and interests you already have.

Post # 5
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6883 posts
Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

joyfulbee345 :  Many people find someone in their 30’s and beyond. It is not the end of the world to be single at 29.  I met my Darling Husband when was 34.  Live life the way you want right now, focus on you be happy.   You will meet someone when the time is right.

Post # 8
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393 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2018 - Porta, Asbury Park NJ

I met my Fiance my I was 34 we got engaged a little over a year after that 12-6-16. I wasn’t looking for a relationship and it sounds so cliche but I think that’s how it happens. A relationship in your 30’s is so refreshing. Men and women know what they want at that age and there are less games. Go out! Do you! Things usually fall into your lap that way!! Times are different now, everyone isn’t in such a rush to grow up! 

Post # 9
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864 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

joyfulbee345 :  With time comes maturity. The thought that everyone will find their forever person between the ages of 23 and 27 is really ridiculous. Just think about how many years you plan to walk the Earth. What are the chances you find your perfect match in this small window. Don’t feel you need to settle or rush because of a socially constructed timeframe. Focus on being the best you and your happiness. What is meant for you will be yours. 

Post # 10
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232 posts
Helper bee

joyfulbee345 :  don’t worry at all. The older you get the quicker things come together. You are better off being in your 30’s to meet someone too. Guys develop a better sense of who they are and get tired of the scene. Plus you can stand on your own and be more confident when you find someone.  I didn’t have much luck dating guys younger than 35. I would say definitely consider older guys. Read Steve Harvey’s book too because he explains why take a while to settle down. Don’t feel funny being single. My friends are all early and mid 30’s and most are single.

Post # 11
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1363 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

Especially in larger cities, it’s common for people to be 32 and single – they might just be doing things in a different order, like buying a house before getting married. Take a few weeks or months to recover from the breakup and when you’re ready, you can actively start looking for someone who wants to be in a long term relationship/get married through online dating, dating services, or events/mixers.

Post # 12
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53 posts
Worker bee

I’m 29 (lol at least until the end of February) and I’ve had concerns just like yours. What I’ve learned is that there are things in life that just can’t be rushed and are very much out of my control. You’re recovering from a break-up, so give yourself time and space to heal.

My advice would be to focus on you and everything amazing in your life or new experiences you’d like to try in the meantime. Work on being the best you can possibly be. lol I know it sounds a bit cheesy, but I’m almost positive it’ll have you feeling better in due time. It sure helped me 🙂  

He’s out there, bee. I’m happy to say that there is no set time limit on when you have to find him. 

Post # 13
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665 posts
Busy bee

joyfulbee345 :  my ex fiancée dumped me and it had taken me a lifetime to find him. I was absolutely broken. 6 months later I met my boyfriend on Tinder who just proposed two hours ago. I never though that I would find someone better than my ex and guess what I did. A zillion times better Late 20’s is still young! No one was married in my circle of friends back then. Don’t give up!!

Post # 14
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3862 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2016

At 29 I was divorced and in the process of dating a string of horrible humans. I met Darling Husband on Tinder at 33. I’m 35 now, been married for 2 months and am sitting here with my heart bursting because it is so full and I am so happy. I had no idea love could feel this good. You have plenty of time, sweet Bee. 

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