Post # 1
Has anyone ever added a bridesmaid late in the game? Our wedding is in June and I selected three bridesmaids months ago. We just picked the dress last week. I wanted to keep the bridal party on the small side due to expenses (gifts, limo size, ect). Now, I wish I had asked my cousin who I was very close with growing up. We didn’t stay as close during high school due to family drama. Now, we have reconnected and it is great! I’ve realized how much I miss spending time with her. I did ask for her to do a reading at the wedding, but now I want her to stand up too. Is is too late to ask? It will be obvious it is an “after the fact” addition. I don’t’ want to make her feel like I didn’t want her. Maybe I should just leave well enough alone?
Also, are ushers considered part of the bridal party and therefore ride in the limo?
Post # 3
My back story is that my cousin was in the wedding, and she found out that she was pregnant. She was due right around our wedding, and she didn’t want to be standing at the alter with her water threatening to break, so she bowed out for her own comfort. I’m a big symmetry person, so I then asked my roommate at the time.
Unfortunately, my cousin lost her baby. It was awful, and I knew how hard it was for her and how she was looking forward to the wedding so much. So I of course asked her if she would still like the honor of being a bridesmaid. She joined the wedding party again, and I certainly wasn’t going to ask my roommate to step down! So my husband added a late groomsman as well.
So we did on several occasions, and it ended up completely working out. The groomsman teased my husband and said he was an “afterthought” but he was totally kidding. I think that if you explain that you feel really close to her and you’d like her in the wedding, she wouldn’t think anything of it.
Post # 4
I did it too! My story is that in June of 2009 when I was engaged I asked three really close friends of mine to be bm’s. At that time my Fiance and I had started hanging out with a couple, the guy I went to school with K-7 and we had been good friends back then. They ended up being some of our great friends and the guy has really taken my Fiance in since he is from Sweden and loves to show him around our area and take him to baseball games. So this past Sept. we asked them both to join our wedding.
The funny thing is when we got engaged my mom said I bet you will want to add her to be a bm and I though my mom was being crazy…..
Post # 5
i think that’s fine! you still have about 7 months (eep!) until your wedding, so it’s not like you’re asking her at the last minute. plus, there was some drama, so i’m sure she’ll understand why she wasn’t asked originally.