Post # 1
My venue has a food, drink, etc. minimum and no additional charge for the space. If we don’t spend x on their food and services, then we have to pay the minimum.
We were keeping our guest list pretty small (to keep on budget), mostly family and a few of our closest friends. However, more of our family appears to be not able to make it to the wedding than we expected, and it looks like we’re going to end up paying the venue minimum (i.e. pay for meals and drinks that no one is there to consume).
I basically already told my other friends that we were going to have a small family-only destination affair and then a big party at our house when we got back for all of our local friends. But, now that I’m seeing the likely size of our guest list, I’d like to invite a few more friends.
How have people dealt with late adds to the guest list? I don’t want to offend anyone.
Post # 3
if you already told them they’re not invited and they’re close friends, you might want to just be honest. just tell them a lot of family declined, so you would love to have them there. if they’re really good friends, they should understand.
Post # 4
Before you send the invites give them a call and explain that you would really love to have them there, and now that some of your family can’t make it there is room. And you’d be honored if they could come. If they are your close friends they’ll understand.
Post # 5
I agree with PP’s just let the know the situation. We scraped our big wedding plans and did a super quick make-shift wedding. About 2 hours before the ceremony was suppose to start FH and I realized we really wanted a friend of ours there so we just called him and he rushed over, was not upset about not being a first round pick lol.