(Closed) Late ceremonies – how late is too late??

posted 8 years ago in Ceremony
Post # 3
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

i wouldn’t start later than 7pm. people are going to get hungry.

Post # 4
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

It might be OK if you have a seriously catered cocktail hour before and a short/light meal after…or if your friends are from someplace where eating super late is the norm.

Or you could just not have a meal and let people know clearly that the should eat before they come.

My ceremony is at 7:30, and I know we’re really pushing the limits of our early diners.  Champagne and hor d’oeuvres will be passed immediately at the conclusion of the ceremony (at the ceremony venue…which is just downstairs from the reception) so that people can get the meal and party going faster and won’t feel oppressed to stick around for pictures or to wish us well.

Post # 5
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

@kitzy:ditto.

we’re ending at 10–that’s when kids AND adults get cranky

Post # 6
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

i am having mine at 5, which is pretty late when you planon serving dinner. i can’t have too much time before the festitivities start, because people will start to get hungry for dinner!

however, 7 is past dinner time, so people probably know to eat before they come,and you will probably serve snacks after.

my aunt’s wedding started at 7, and it was candlelit and totally beautiful!

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

My ceremony is at 7pm (sunset is at 8:17), any later and I would have prob had food set out pre-ceremony. Are you doing pictures before the ceremony?

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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@MissDareDevil:  Most of my friends eat around 8 or 9.  7 is only past dinner time for some people (like my dad) who have been warned and will probably grab a late afternoon snack.  It’s not always easy or possible to give everyone in a large group their meal at the time of their habit, so I’m not stressing out about it too much…just trying to grease the skids to make dinner happen efficiently afterwards.

Post # 9
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

My ceremony does not start until 7:30 however we are not having a full mass but the reception is about 5 mins away from the church. My fear is that by time we get done photos everyone will be tired and leaving…

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@blondebride2:  Are you doing a 1st look?  Partly b/c we’re a relatively small destination group, I’m including my guests in photos and trying to keep the list of photos that I want short and organized.  I think I’ll just bail on photos after a half hour if we don’t have all the ones I wanted and try to stage more w/ our photographer at the reception.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Yikes… That’s pretty intense. 8:30 … depending on the length of your ceremony means you won’t even start the reception until well after 9:00 PM – which means a very, very late dinner. Any older folks or people with kids won’t want to stick around that late and those who do stick around, unless they’re used to late nights, probably won’t be too up for a ‘party’.

Post # 12
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

have snacks available as you walk out of the church? it’ll perk people back up

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee

I’m attending a wedding that starts at 8pm this fall and they’re only serving light hordouvres. On their website, they instruct and expect people to eat before the ceremony starts. 

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2011

Another thing you could do (picture wise) is have the bridal party pictures taken before hand and just save the bride/groom pictures for after – that was you won’t see each other before the wedding, but you won’t spend too much time on pictures afterwards.

Post # 16
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

@erinleigh1:  Having a late wedding turned out to be a great way to get an adult-only affair w/o having to specify it.  None of the parents are choosing to bring their young kids.

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