- 5 years ago
- Wedding: June 2017
So my wedding is going to be in June 2017. I still don’t have much planned out.
I was planning to do the traditional 4-10pm wedding timeline, and a BBQ reception, but now I’m rethinking that. We’re budgeting, and it’s all getting a little more expensive than we’d like. That’s not the only consideration, though. My Fiance and I were talking about what we actually want for our wedding, and we decided that what we really want is to have a fun party. Obviously the ceremony is the most important part, but for our reception we want good times and dancing, with a more casual/fun feel.
The BBQ would work, but we’re just not sure it’s what we’re looking for.
For our late evening wedding, it would be:
Ceremony at 7pm
Reception begins at 7:30pm
Reception lasts until 12am/whenever last guests depart
There will be beer and wine (a few varieties of local beers and wines that we’ll be purchasing ourselves), plus a signature cocktail or two. Our friends are largely beer or wine drinkers, but I do have a few friends who only drink liquor so I want to accomodate them.
The food – ??? Please help with food suggestions! This will be after dinnertime, but I still want plenty of food for guests, possibly some stations, just not a formal dinner. My FI’s aunt will be doing the catering, and she’s hiring a few people to help her with prep and cook, as well as set up the food, but we’re not looking to have waiters pass around hor d’oeuvres or anything like that. More of a casual vibe.
Table suggestions? I want seating for everyone, but I also don’t want it to look odd with a bunch of formal dinner tables when we aren’t having an actual dinner. But there will be food so people need places to eat. But also I don’t think people will all eat at the same time, many will probably wait until later to eat because they’ll have just eaten before the ceremony.
I do think this is something our guests, in general, will enjoy more than a formal dinner. We have a huge group of friends, and I’ve hosted parties for them before. So I know what my guests would like in a party. There are some adult relatives who wouldn’t enjoy late night drinking and dancing, BUT they would have left right after dinner anyway, because they come to the wedding for the ceremony and do not care to be around people who are drinking (these are my relatives, they’re very religious and this is what they’ve done at other family member’s weddings, they’ll stay out of obligation for the dinner but they really only come for the ceremony). My FI’s adult relatives would probably not stay too late either, but again they go to the wedding for the ceremony, not for the reception. They would enjoy the more casual feel, though, and do enjoy drinking and we would definitely make sure to have plenty of seating and tables for them.
Also, I know it’s not kid friendly, but we would only have four kids there, and I’ve already talked to the parents about my idea, and my sister in law (brother’s wife) said that she’d love to enjoy the reception later without her kids so she’s going to get a babysitter for when it gets too late for them, and my sister is going to stick her FI’s kids with them (the four kids get alone very well). So that isn’t a concern.
Our friend, whose land we are going to be using for our wedding (we talked to him about it and he readily agreed and refused to take payment for it, although I told him that he should consider it his wedding gift to us), regularily hosts (in the summer) our friends for tent camping. We (my Fiance and our friend) have talked about having some of our friends camp in the tents the night of the reception. Our friends would love it. As for the tents, we would talk to our friends ahead of time about who would like to camp, and we’d collect tents ahead of time (as well as use some large ones we already have), and have them set up before the ceremony so everything would be good to go at night. Also, our friend also has a nice cabin my Fiance and I would be able to sleep in that night (as well as, our friends could drop off their overnight stuff there before the ceremony).
We’re also thinking of doing a bonfire at night, when things are winding down. If we do the camping, I think this could be really great.
So… what does everyone think about this? I truly believe it’s something that my friends and I would enjoy. However, I would also love any and all suggestions and criticisms. If you would consider anything I’m doing rude, please let me know.