Late fall wedding, but waiting on official proposal

posted 2 years ago in Engagement
Post # 31
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Sugar bee

akshali2000 :  Good point! My compromise for planning a June wedding was to book a Friday night rather than a Saturday. Shorter engagements can definitely be done, especially if you’re willing to be flexible about day of the week or do a morning wedding/brunch reception instead of the usual dinner reception. Smaller weddings are also easier to plan for since the venues that can cater to 200+ are going to be more limited than those that can accommodate 50 or 100. If you must have a Saturday at a popular venue, prepare to plan way in advance, OR be open to any open dates that are available and keep your ears perked for cancellations.  

Post # 33
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Busy bee

beegirl1989 :  and any ring on ur finger yet? Might want to play him some proposal YouTube videos accidentally..

Post # 34
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

beegirl1989 :  I’m not trying to be rude, I promise. I just would like to understand why people start planning their weddings before they are engaged. I feel like it’s rushing life away instead of taking things one step at a time. Get engaged and be excited about that! Then work on booking. If you want a fall wedding book for fall 2019 if 2018 is completely booked. Also, beings that he hasn’t proposed yet, could it mean he isn’t ready? What if he feels pressure to propose because you’re looking at venues so he does it, but then ends up calling it off after eveyrthing is booked because he actually wasn’t ready. Saving for a ring is a huge step for guys, everytime they put money in that sock (what my fiance and dad did) or whereever they are keeping it they’ll either become more sure about marrying you, or less sure. Give him that time to get more or less sure. I have plenty of friend’s who’s boyfriends said they’ll propose and then they broke up before there was a proposal :(. I’m not at all doubting your boyfriend. I’m just saying don’t rush life away, sit back and allow yourself to enjoy every piece.

Post # 35
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Helper bee

If you’re already planning your wedding and to be married, you are already engaged, meaning committed to getting married Why else would you be planning a wedding? Reading here, though, it seems people don’t consider themselves as engaged without a proposal and ring. The proposal is just for giving and getting the ring since you already have decided to get married or you wouldn’t be looking at wedding venues, so it’s really just about the ring. That seems like a weird reason to potentially miss out on the venue you want on the date you want.

Post # 36
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

My friend planned 90% of her wedding before he had even asked her to marry him (I’m sure we all thought she was a wack job at some point). 

But in hindsight she had it done. It all worked out. There’s no harm in doing things if you haven’t gotten a proposal yet. 

Post # 37
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

asummerbridet7 :  all great points, but I’m not sure there’s a good reason for postponing something as big as marriage simply for a proposal surprise. A year postponement can be a lont time depending on what you want out of your marriage (say, if you are TTC relatively soon, or moving, or wanting to move in together, or buy a house, or long distance, or whatever).

browneyedgirl24 :  Yes, definitely! We lucked out that although our first choice Saturday wasn’t available, our second choice was. But yeah, if you’re starting to look less than a year out in a major metro area (in my case we were looking in Chicagoland region), then you need to be flexible about dates and/or venues.

Post # 38
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018 - Banquet Hall/Conference Center

for NOT* postponing something as big as marriage. Wow sorry for the typo in my above post, that changes the whole sentence haha.

Post # 41
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Busy bee

beegirl1989 :  this is sooo exciting! I hope u both find a nice wedding venue for a Nov wedding. I guess u would consider a autumnal theme? Don’t worry too much. Many of my friends got married and are happily married without a proposal or engagement ring. So it’ll all be alright… Hugs x

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