Post # 1
I received a very late invite for a wedding.
I understand very well how expensive is to organise a wedding, and I wouldn’t have had a problem with not being invited; that said I do find rather unpleasant an invitation 3 days from the stag/hen weekend and 3 weeks from the wedding.
The very late invite was justified by “I completely forgot I am a disaster”, “I would love you to come there” and phrases like that. It still wasn’t a formal, printed wedding invitation, but a rather long email – with no phone call.
I have already plans for the weekend, plus I wouldn’t be to keen on buying last minute plane tickets and sort out last minute accomodation.
I am also feeling a very confused – because the email indeed is very sweet – but I cannot think that someone can “forget” to invite someone for a wedding. Also, I cannot understand why I got this kind of very late invitation. Is it done on the understanding that the other person would refuse to come?
I don’t care whether I am invited or not, it just seems a bit false to have an invitation 3 weeks from the date – or am I completely off track? I am pretty sure that the venue would have been booked with at least 9 months in advance…
How can I decline the “invite” in a friendly-but-not-that-much way?
Thanks for any suggestion.
Post # 3
“Thank you so much for the invitation, however unfortunately I already have plans that weekend. I hope you have an amazing time!”
Short and sweet is best. I’d be a little off- put by this invite too, especially if you’d need a plane ticket to attend. Best to just shrug it off, IMO 🙂
Post # 4
Not a big deal. Are you really close to this person? It sucks to be a B or even C lister but no need getting upset.
If you aren’t really invested in the friendship, I agree w the PP.
Post # 5
Honestly, we forgot to invite one of my husband’s friends until the last minute. We had so much going on that it slipped through the cracks. My husband emailed me his friend’s address and I forgot to add it to our master list. Once we were doing the seating chart and realized we hadn’t heard back, we quickly sent out an invite. We both felt horrible. I’m sure this is why his friend (and his family) didn’t attend – but it was by no means intentional on our part. They were always on the “A” list – it was just an honest mistake. And, our wedding required travel from NYC to Philadelphia (for this family). Perhaps that is what happened here?
Post # 6
I understand that you would be upset because you have to come from out of town, but don’t feel obligated to give a detailed explanation. I agree with KristenGettingMarried
I just invited my co-worker with a little over 3 weeks to go. She was so excited that I did feel bad for making the invite last minute. But I explained to her my reasons and she had no problem with it. I’ll never know if she does, but hey I tried.
Don’t be too mad about it.