(Closed) Late Night Bees- I Need Advice ASAP.. Please!

posted 6 years ago in Parties
Post # 3
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: April 2012

please don’t worry about it.  just enjoy the day and enjoy having your family around.  with a lot of Out of Town guests there’s bound to be some catch up.  weddings are family events. enjoy it.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I would think that the talk tonight was centered around catching up because it was the first time everyone had seen each other, but tomorrow will be a more “couple-centered” atmosphere. So there will probably be a much larger focus on you two as a couple. But anyway, when you go to eat you can sit by those you feel closest to… it can still feel intimate even if there are tons of people there.

Attempting to invite others may be hard at the last minute, and may even be seen as being rude (as in, why didnt you invite me in the first place?) And un-inviting is even worse. I’d say, just go with the flow. But that’s just my view… sorry if it doesnt help any…

Post # 6
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625 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

What you said above actually doesnt seem like a bad plan, as long as you guys plan to make the rounds to say hi at some point lol

Post # 7
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297 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

i think your option to share that there is an issue with the restaurant is a good idea… but also try to get a few of his relatives rounded up to join instead.  maybe talk with your parents and maid of honor and try to have them take the brunt of the fall so to speak.  don’t let this ruin your weekend!  

Post # 9
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

will all of your family actually attend the rehearsal, or are they just showing up for dinner?  if they’re coming to the rehearsal, then the night might be geared towards you.  if they’re just showing up after you’re done, I’d assume it will just be family catching up.

Post # 10
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

Truthfully, I think he is just getting pre-wedding jitters and is being a bit sensitive and whiny.  I think you should just continue with your plan, just make sure to be supportive of your fiance and direct the conversation just a little bit to make him feel included.  It’s pretty customary for out of town guests to be invited to a rehearsal dinner (but not usually the rehearsal), at least where I live.  Best of luck and don’t stress!  Remember, your wedding is supposed to be fun!

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Just enjoy the day! He can’t stay upset to long with the next day being your wedding day!! Just soak up EVERY minute and enjoy! good luck lady!

 

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

PLEASE don’t feel badly about this. Neither of you had any idea that this is how it was going to feel or how he would end up feeling amidst all of the family. How good that he was open and straight up about what he was feeling and why.

I really think you need to talk to him about what he would like best. If you can get a heap of his people to come down and he would like that, then that is probably your best option. It would help the night to feel more like the making of a new family with everyone getting to know each other and focusing on “How do you know Groom?” etc I would just explain to his family that last minute you had more seating available or something so they don’t feel like you are just now thinking of them.

However, I really do think that tomorrow will be more about you two. Tonight was the catch up, it was the first time everyone had seen each other in a while and was not an official wedding event. I mean realistically, how long can the focus be on the two of your before everyone has already said/asked everything? Tomorrow there will be toasts and pre-wedding jitters and excitement. I really do think it will be about you two whether or not more of his family can make it. Besides, this IS his family now! ๐Ÿ™‚

OR you can guarantee that the night will be about you two by just having the bridal party and telling everyone that the restaurant got it wrong (or course then you never know who might catch onto the lie or surprise arrange another venue). 

 

The slitting the rooms in two rooms option to me is NOT an option. I would think it to be the height of rudeness if I was one of the non-bridal party and like you didn’t want me to be a part of your wedding at all. As if you thought me rude and loud and unpleasant enough that you had to put a door between us. A door! It could make people spiteful and lead to an unpleasant wedding. 

 

Good luck, either way enjoy tomorrow! I’m sure it will be terrific. ๐Ÿ˜€ 

Post # 15
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

Sooooo how did it go?

 

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@Mrs_Amanda: Yes, please let us know how it went! Although I guess you might  be on your honeymoon right now so it probably doesn’t matter that much at the moment. Well, we want to hear all about everything when you come back down to earth. ๐Ÿ™‚  

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