Post # 1
hi bees, just came home from a party.. it was at my FI’s brother’s house. i took my cousin with me & i came home early because I could tell she was kinda bored.. but she kept saying how my FI’s brother is gross and she kept repeating it.. she was saying it in portuguese so no one could understand it.. i don’t know why but it bothered me.. i guess because I already see FI’s brother as my brother in law… she said he’s gross because he was wearing sweats at a party & he’s bigger.. I just thought it was mean & shallow of her 🙁 i don’t want to argue with my cousin but I feel just as guilty staying quiet.. just had to vent.
Post # 3
You should’ve told her on the way home. No need for it to be confrontational or anything, but just point out that it bothered you and that she should be more accepting of people that are different from her. If she doesn’t get it, then oh well. Some people are stuck in their ways and will just continue bad behavior until they grow up or learn better. I understand the vent and why it bothered you, though.
Post # 4
@EsqBailey: thank you.. yeah that’s how I feel that people should just be more accepting of others. doesn’t mean you have to like them or be friends, but you don’t have to sit there and talk crap on them especially when it’s your first time meeting a person.. i should’ve brought it up on the way home but i just didn’t want to end the night on a bad note.. but if it happens again i’ll say how I don’t like hearing that.. thanks for the advice