Post # 1
Well…although it wasnt official, i had became fixated on 5/5/12 a cinco de mayo themed wedding!! i was so excited, looking at tons of ideas and inspiration boards, but there is no way we could commit to a date right now (financially).
And well, i had noo idea that my best friends civil ceremony (she had eloped a couple of years ago, so she’s just planning the church wedding/reception) anniversary was May 5th. She had set her date for this august, but i guess now with opinion from her mom, she’s also considering 5/5/12 and a cinco de mayo theme.
What can i do, its their day, I know she would do the same for me, and if i was ready to commit to it, she also would have been ok with it, so I just need some time to let my bursted balloon settle.
Question ladies: would you share with her all of your ideas or not? (with the hope that one day you can use them for yourself)
Post # 3
I would, but only because she is my best friend, and since she now has that date, I would be picking a new one, and more than likely a totally different theme.
Post # 4
@fishylove: First off, I do commend you for being the bigger person and to be taking it so well. That being said…
I understand that it’s their day, but I don’t think I would share ALL my ideas with her. Maybe the most obvious, but I would keep the special details that were important to just me and FI to myself. No need to give up all your secrets… she can find things herself as well, I’m sure sh’e a big girl. :O)
Post # 5
I think I would probably keep most of my ideas to myself but I would definitely help her plan and come up with some great ones of her own.
Post # 6
My cousin is getting married next year and I am her Maid/Matron of Honor and even though I am not engaged yet I still have tons of wedding ideas! I am really careful in what great ideas I have though because I don’t want people to think that I copied it from her! I
I don’t blame you for being bummed! I totally would be too! I agree with PP in that you should only share the obvious details, or even details that are great that you dont want at your wedding. Keep the special things to yourself! If she comes up with them herself there is nothing you can do about it but you don’t have to give away all your ideas! The great thing about weddings is there are so many friggen options you can have, so even if you have the same theme you can have a completely different wedding!!
Post # 7
You are such a GREAT friend for letting this slide off your back without saying anything. That says a lot about your character and your friendship. If the majority of your ideas were centered around the Cinco de Mayo theme, and you won’t be using that anymore, I would share those ideas with her. If you are attached to your color scheme, venue, music, etc…Keep that to yourself.
Post # 8
Thank you ladies, well i did let her know that i would need some time to let it go, and to feel bummed about it all, she understands, but i was realistic and knew i couldn’t say yes to the date as of now. Well it’s still up in the air she’s not sure she will push it back, but seems most likely. What is hard is that I feel i may have to live my ‘dreams through her’. because i don’t think theres any way i could have that same theme anymore :/
Post # 9
I would help her to have the best wedding possible with that theme and then when your turn comes around have a different theme and she can help you out!