Late periods, BFNs, sad, don't know where to go

posted 2 years ago in TTC
Post # 2
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Is there a reason you aren’t actually try trying? Do you temp and chart? Use OPKs? Likely a big problem is that you’re missing your O window.

I know we’ve all been brought up to believe that getting pregnant is super easy and all you have to do is not use protection but that isn’t the case. Getting pregnant actually takes a lot of effort and work for a lot of women, myself included.

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

rusticglambride :  I’m just going to come out and say it. TTC is hard. But you truly do need to be actively trying, or at least confirming ovulation every cycle before you can allow yourself such heartbreak. If you aren’t tracking your ovulation – you aren’t truly “late” that you know of, and those BFN’s/disappointment might all be for nothing. Even with a relaxed attitude about TTC (or not actively trying as you put it), you can’t get a positive test or a pregnancy unless you are timing intercourse around when you ovulate. It just won’t happen. 

If you are wanting to start a family as much as you describe, and your husband is on board with the timing, then why not start tracking things so that you can get 1) a clear picture of how your body/cycles work and 2) have a legitimiate chance of achieving pregnancy? The “cruel joke” of a BFN is still possible, of course, as TTC is difficult and everyone has their own journey. But if your tests came back clear as you said, then you most likely won’t have any issues getting pregnant soon after you start timing things appropriately.

Best of luck to you.

Post # 6
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Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: City, State

Hey, I totally understand. We started “trying” in March and nothing yet. I say “trying” because I wasn’t using OPKs or temping which its pretty clear I need to be doing. We’re waiting a couple of months before I start using those methods until after a trip we have planned. But I get the disappointment, I really truly do.

If you start tracking you should check out the POAS boards here on the bee, its a wonderful community with a lot of knowledge. 

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