Post # 1
This has been going on since May but for some reason it refused to let me log in. I have been off BC for a year now and had the normal couple wonky cycles but had been perfect for 6 months. Then Mays period decided to not come took a pregnancy test after a few days because though we’re not actively trying(long story) we are ready for a baby. Tried again after two weeks and legit thought I was, nope. Made an appointment at 3 weeks because I wasn’t feeling well and had never been this late. For sure not pregnant. Finally got it after a completely missed cycle and hormones went crazy and I felt like crap and gyn did all kinds of tests and an ultrasound. No cysts and I’m even healthier then I thought and I do ovulate. So basically chalk it up to a whoops on my body. Here I am again 2 weeks late and more BFNs. Mentally this is breaking my heart. My husband knows how bad I want to start a family and he wants everything to be perfect. That long story is the reason why we haven’t started actively trying. We are not perfectly careful right now which is why I have hope. I just thought our plan would be farther along then it is now and waiting is sucking. I think it getting my period and seeing the BFN is a cruel joke my body is playing on me. No idea where to put this in the forum either I guess ttc is the closest.
Post # 2
Is there a reason you aren’t actually try trying? Do you temp and chart? Use OPKs? Likely a big problem is that you’re missing your O window.
I know we’ve all been brought up to believe that getting pregnant is super easy and all you have to do is not use protection but that isn’t the case. Getting pregnant actually takes a lot of effort and work for a lot of women, myself included.
Post # 3
I’m just going to come out and say it. TTC is hard. But you truly do need to be actively trying, or at least confirming ovulation every cycle before you can allow yourself such heartbreak. If you aren’t tracking your ovulation – you aren’t truly “late” that you know of, and those BFN’s/disappointment might all be for nothing. Even with a relaxed attitude about TTC (or not actively trying as you put it), you can’t get a positive test or a pregnancy unless you are timing intercourse around when you ovulate. It just won’t happen.
If you are wanting to start a family as much as you describe, and your husband is on board with the timing, then why not start tracking things so that you can get 1) a clear picture of how your body/cycles work and 2) have a legitimiate chance of achieving pregnancy? The “cruel joke” of a BFN is still possible, of course, as TTC is difficult and everyone has their own journey. But if your tests came back clear as you said, then you most likely won’t have any issues getting pregnant soon after you start timing things appropriately.
Best of luck to you.
Post # 4
my mothers disabled and I currently own a house with her. Husband pays for our condo on his own. The plan always been her get back surgery and buy a bigger house near his work. Well we have been dealing with workmans comp for 2 years now. We’re in the final stages and waiting for the last approval we will need. I really wanted to at least sell my moms and mines house this spring so we could travel and do all the things we put off because of her. It’s hard because we can’t just move her some where cheaper because the mortgage is low and rent would be higher. The only option is leaisure world and she would hate it. Or I could continue working and give up the hope of ever being able to afford children or any of the things I want till she dies. It’s just a crap situation.
so as it stands now she may get her surgery by xmas and we would list house in spring then travel then ttc after. That’s best case scenario. I always imagined being done with having kids by 31. I am now 29 and want 2. The plan is also for me to be a Stay-At-Home Mom because child care would be my income. That’s the just of the long story.
Post # 5
slomotion : BeverlyGeese :
I probably should start tracking and I think that was always my plan to get off BC and really commit to TTC. I don’t think I ever expected to be off it a year and to not be actively trying yet. Also I think it’s the just not getting my period right now that’s frustrating me.
Post # 6
Hey, I totally understand. We started “trying” in March and nothing yet. I say “trying” because I wasn’t using OPKs or temping which its pretty clear I need to be doing. We’re waiting a couple of months before I start using those methods until after a trip we have planned. But I get the disappointment, I really truly do.
If you start tracking you should check out the POAS boards here on the bee, its a wonderful community with a lot of knowledge.