Post # 1
I got married in august, 3 months ago (today, yay!), but I havent had a chance to get my thank you cards out yet. School started right after our honeymoon and I’ve been swamped just trying to keep up with all my work. I finally have some time to write them now, but I feel bad that its been a while. Should I write a note on the cards apologizing/ explaining why its been so long? I’ve been thinking of putting a picture of us with the people at the wedding in the cards for a more personal touch, and to make up for the delay a little too. Did anyone else here get cards out months after the wedding?
Post # 3
I wouldn’t put a note about how long it’s been since the wedding. Just thank them, and if you want to put a picture in the card, I think that’s a nice touch.
Post # 4
I’m sure people know and understand you are a student. Don’t worry about taking even more time to write a note to explain it. To be honest, people probably won’t want to hear it. Just get them out
Post # 5
I agree with the PP’s – write and send them as soon as possible without killing yourself. 🙂 I always prefer a late thank you over no thank you. I think traditional etiquette says you have a year from your wedding, so you still have plenty of time.
Post # 6
Just get them out as soon as you can – I don’t think you’re too bad at this point. Would it be possible to make it in to a sort of Christmas card as well? As a guest, as long as I get one at some point, it doesn’t really matter to me. I know life gets busy for newlyweds and sometimes, after a long day of work/school, you just really, really, want to take a night or two off from wedding-related anythings!
Post # 7
Agreed, skip the apology and get them out as soon as you can without having to skip studying, etc. A late thank you card is 100% better than no thank you card.
Post # 8
Three months isn’t terrible – based on the title of this post, I was expecting you to say the wedding was 8 months ago or something like that. Three months is fine – maybe not ideal but it’s still well within the acceptable timelines, no apologies required. If you want to include a picture, by all means, do so; I’m sure some people will assume you waited to send them out until you got the pro pics, so that may alleviate some of your guilt. Regardless though, you shouldn’t worry – I think most people are just happy to receive a thank you note full stop.
Post # 9
I am very late with my thank yous, and have a goal to finish them by our first anniversary, which is this month.
On our honeymoon, my husband was seriously injured and ended up hospitalized for a week, and then back to the hospital for surgery a week later. (In sickness and health! For better for worse, right?) He couldn’t work for months (or write!) and I ended up working crazy hours to support us while he recovered. When he was better, we were BOTH working like crazy to keep our businesses afloat, pay our bills AND pay the medical bills.
There is a part of me that is horrified that it has taken this long, but now, my first weekend off in months, I’m sitting down and finishing all of them. They WILL be done by the anniversary. I’m not writing any extra words of apology, I’m focusing only on the wonderful gifts and how much we appreciated everything.
We were and ARE very grateful for all the gifts, and I hope people understand the type of stress we were under. I think nearly every guest knows what happened to him and that it was a difficult time. Thank God he is fine now.
Finishing this task is going to help me put the hard parts of the last year behind me, and remembering the wedding and the outpouring of love from everyone is actually helping with that, too. We had so little time to enjoy the bubble of wedding/newlywed happiness before it burst. Brides, be thankful for all the sweet moments of life, and don’t stress too much about things like dress colors and invitation wording — be glad for the celebration and the love you have in your life.