(Closed) Late thank you notes: what should I say?

posted 10 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 3
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513 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 1969

I don’t think you should apologize, it’s no biggie. Most people would understand I am sure- how long has it been since the gathering?

Since you moved- did you send change of addresses out to your family and friends? Maybe you can include in that a ‘thank you for your kind gift- and we’ve been busy moving!’ kinda note. ???

Post # 5
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1238 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

I haven’t sent my wedding thank yous yet — we got married in August.  I’m not going to apologize for my crazy busy life –  those who were close enough to come to my wedding know my schedule.

Post # 6
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754 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2008

Whenever I have gotten a late thank you I am just glad one was sent at all.  People will forget all about how late it is when they actually get the note.  Promise!

Post # 9
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2292 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2008

Can your mom help out with the gift list?  Moms can be like elephants that way – amazing memories.  I have no idea what to do if you’re not even sure whether somebody brought a gift or not – at least you can thank them for celebrating with you, and say you look forward to seeing them at the wedding.  And also, at least you learned before the wedding!  Have someone at the gift table with a roll of scotch tape, so that the envelopes stay with the gifts until you open them, and then put them right into a spreadsheet or at least a Word file, so that it’s harder to lose!

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2008

Good advice suzanno.  At my wedding my coordinator used colored dots and notebook paper to keep track of the gifts. It worked super well and made it easy when we finally opened everything after returning from our honeymoon.  We used http://www.weddingtracker.com to keep track of everything as we opened them.

Post # 11
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Helper bee

Write a thank you for the gift and continue with an update of what is going on in your life, ie…Fiance and I just completed our move. We love the big windows in our new apartment and are settling into our new jobs just fine. We are slowly unpacking everything and have finally found the box with the fabulous tablecloth you gave us. We plan to use it when we have some new friends for dinner on Friday.

Post # 12
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2006

I agree, don’t apologize, but I think you should try very hard to make the notes more personal. "Thank you for the gift and for coming" is a disappointing thank you note to receive. Thank you notes are hard to write, but if you take a moment to think of some memory you share with that person, or something they said that had an impact on you, add that. If you can’t come up with one of those, mention how important the shower was for you and that you’re grateful they participated in that event.

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