Post # 1
So. I’m one of *those* wedding guests. I attended a wedding last summer and still haven’t gotten them a gift. (While etiquette allows up to a year to send a gift, I know many brides complain about that.) I have NO idea what to send the married couple, so I’ve delayed the gift giving even longer than I initially expected to. I need help with ideas of what to give!
*At the time I had been recently laid off, and then moved within a few months so I’ll admit money had been tight.
*The couple purposely registered for a small amount of gifts. And had a 300+ person wedding.
So – there’s nothing left on the registry. I didn’t just want to send $40-50 cash (what I could afford) so I’ve been racking my brains with a decent gift idea and I’m still coming up somewhat short. I’m not overly close with the couple so I don’t have any sentimental gift ideas.
So given all that information, does anyone have some good suggestions on a gift to send now? Or have any of you sent a gift well after the wedding, within the one year timeframe, that wasn’t on the registry?
I appreciate any help or suggestions!!!!
Post # 3
How about a gift card to a nice restaurant? Inside the card you could mention that you know its a little late, but that you hope they could enjoy a date night on you! Even if its just for $50, I know I would enjoy that and you’ll be giving them a reason to go out and have fun as a new married couple 🙂
Post # 4
@MrsRichard: this is exactly what I’d do:)
Post # 5
@Holly77: great minds think alike! lol
Post # 6
I would give them a gift certificate or just a check. Sometimes people register for a small amount of gifts in the hopes that their guests will give money. I’m sure they’ll appreicate anything you give them though.
Post # 7
@cdc84: No offense, but if you weren’t overly close with the couple and you couldn’t afford a gift, why did you attend the wedding?
Post # 8
@tracylesq: That’s a bit unfair, isn’t it? I’m sure the couple appreciated her presence even if she didn’t bring a gift. They sent an invitation, not a contract for a transaction.
Post # 9
– a giftcard to Shutterfly or another photo site so they can have prints of the wedding
– something customized (we received a displayable plate with a wedding-ish image and our names that’s really cute, and a bowl with our names and wedding date on the rim)
– a quilt or throw in their wedding colors or customized
– one of my co-workers got me a $50 Victoria’s Secret gift card. I thought that was pretty cool, and I waited til the semi-annual sale to get the most out of it
– maybe go through their registry and see if you can find an item that complements other items they’ve registered for. Like, if they registered for very large candle holders, maybe get them some large unscented candles. Or, if they registered for a pasta maker, get them a cookbook with pasta recipes. Board games? Get them a less traditional one. Cookie sheets or cutters? A cookie cookbook. Check out what color sheets they got and find a coordinating throw pillow. Find a soap dish that matches their towels. Wine glass charms for all those wine glasses. Tea and coffee accessories could lead to a variety of teas and coffees. Crockpot cookbook…
– a simple tasteful frame for a wedding picture
– if they’re TTC soon, something that alludes to that, like a baby-savings piggy bank
– something Mr and Mrs, like travel cups or coffee mugs or matching socks or something silly
– everyone can always use more towels
Hope these ideas help!
Post # 10
You could do a gift for there one year anniversary, like a nght picture frame, his and her stationary or towels and I also the above restaurant gift card idea is really good too.
Post # 11
@AlwaysSunny: Sorry, I don’t think it’s an unfair question. The fact that she said she wasn’t “overly close” with the couple is what sounds unusual to me. If she was family or was close, I can understand attending even though you can’t afford a gift.
My husband’s close first cousin and her husband attended our wedding and stiffed us on a gift that they could well afford. It was like a slap in the face. On top of that, she later “confessed” to forgetting to bring the card, and asked our address so she could mail it. The gift still never came.
Post # 12
@tracylesq: I’m sorry that happened to you. Still, she already went to the wedding so what’s the point of making her feel bad about it? It sounds like she’s already feeling bad about the gift situation. That’s why she came here to ask for really special suggestions.
Post # 13
@tracylesq: Maybe some brides invite people because they want to share their special day with them, not just to get a present. If OP was close enough to receive an invitation, then she was close enough to attend, regardless of her ability to give a gift.
Post # 14
@tracylesq: Maybe they attended because they were invited. Last I checked, an invitation isn’t actually a gift demand.
Post # 15
@tracylesq: to clarify, I was roommates with the bride at the time. We had lived together for a month when she got engaged and we didn’t know each other before as I had just moved to a new city. We got to know each other better by her wedding but my point of mentioning I wasn’t overly close to the couple was to explain why I couldn’t think of a more sentimental option. given we were roommates she was also aware of my financial situation.
Lastly, when I am invited to a wedding, whether I attend or not, I send a gift. So, in this case, even if I passed on attending, I still would be in this situation, trying to figure out an appropriate gift to send.
Post # 16
Thank you thank you to all of you with the great present suggestions! they are all great ideas!
@confettiegg2000: you are a goldmine of ideas! Thank you! I may even have to use these suggestions for other weddings in the future.
@MrsRichard: and @Holly77: I like the restaurant idea a lot! They also moved to a new city so that could be a nice excuse for them to try a new spot.