(Closed) Lately I have been feeling unfulfilled…

posted 5 years ago in Relationships
Post # 2
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Busy bee

You’ve only been together for a year. Not a long time when you look at your life. If you’re already feeling unfulfilled and seeking attention from other men it’s not going to change in the future. And I don’t blame him for not wanting to move in after 1 year or get married, that still seems relatively quick.

I’d say if your current S.O isn’t living up to what you need in a partner, then its best to cut your losses now. Its no fun to be in a relationship where you aren’t happy.

Post # 3
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Buzzing bee

Honestly, you just might not be right for each other.  There can be great things about him but he just isn’t the one for you or you for him.  It sounds like not a lot of progress in the relationship, not a lot of emotional or physical intimacy and general differences in your personalities.  You don’t have to continue forward and take the next step of moving in just because he’s a good person and you’ve been dating for a year.  Its possible that it is time to cut your losses and make yourself open to meeting someone who is a better match. 

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Your relationship sounds very casual to me, and not a solid relationship. I would still date him, yet seeing other men at the same time. Sex only once every 2 weeks is like no sex (unless you are much older than I think you are). 

You are better off with someone that at least has the same need as you. But make sure that you date someone is baggage free. I might sound like a bitch, but if I dont have any baggage, I would try to stay away from men that have baggage/complicated past. It was like the first check box for me when I was dating men. Trust me, I had a list with check boxes, and it helped. 

 

Post # 5
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Busy bee

I agree with pp if you guys have only been together 1 year and you feel this way why are you holding on. He is not the right one for you. When you have been with someone 1 year i feel this should still be the honeymoon phase you should be happy on cloud 9 even. I think too that at 1 year if it isnt working its time to move on. Your clearly unhappy move on find your the person you are ment to be with and let this guy be a memory.

Post # 7
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2010

Sounds like you are in love with the idea of him, not who he really is. In the beginning of relationships we spend a lot of time talking and creating a dream. It’s a very important step in bonding, but after some time, you have to make sure that the dreams you created in the air, are actually being built in real life. It sounds like you are seeing that what you thought was going to happen, isn’t. This is very common. Time to cut your losses and move on–you guys arent a good fit. 

Ask yourself this…if he never changed, would you be okay with that?

Post # 10
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

At age 30 dating casually for a year was a deal breaker for me. 

It sounds to me to me like you’ve got different life goals, different libidos, different wants and needs in life and in the relationship. Perhaps someone whose goals matched up with yours would be more fulfilling?

Post # 13
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Busy bee

Scarlett11:  I really like this comment. Just because he’s a good person and you’ve been together for a while doesn’t mean this is “it.” It seems like people fail when they base their decisions on these factors. It’s time to move in together or get married when you feel overwhelmingly positive about the relationship and sure that you’ve found your life partner.

He might be a great guy, just not the guy for you. I know that’s harder to hear at 31 than 23, but that doesn’t make it any less true.

Post # 14
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Busy bee

Was something “wrong” with my ex? Overall he was a great guy who was very together. But there were things that irritated me, and it wasn’t the best match of personalities. I’m sorry, but I think you might be in the same place. If you’re like me, only be with someone you respect and admire, otherwise you’ll feel contempt after a while.

Post # 16
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Busy bee

I totally get it. I ended things with my ex at 28 and I’m not going to lie, before it ended I was really concerned. It’s easy to feel like you’ll be left out in the cold. But then we broke up and I realized how many single people there are. I started dating my Fiance almost immediately after.

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