(Closed) Lately I just want to cry :( Just venting…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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340 posts
Helper bee

My boyfriend is in the reserves and I hate when he leaves too. I am sorry you have so much stressful things to worry about with all the plans. And to be honest I think the worst is the moving part because you are starting over, but you will be fine and will make friends, enjoy college and it will be good for you and your husband to start a new life together so don’t worry.

Post # 4
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@roweboat:  Sorry, that’s a really tough situation.  A few pieces of advice I can give you…

1 -Take a day off from planning every once in a while.  It’s not the end of the world if you spend 4 hours one night after work with a glass wine, taking a bath, reading a book, etc.  It will all still get done so take a break when you need one.

2 – When it comes to the little details – keep it simple, ok?  You don’t HAVE to have favors, you don’t HAVE to have an elaborate ceremony, etc.  Bottom line, focus on what means the most to you.  Make a decision and commit to it.  Once you have made that choice, that’s it – no re-thinking it, no second-guessing.  Done!

3 – Be grateful for what you two did manage to bang out prior to his absence.  That’s a lot of stuff you don’t have to stress over now.

4 – Deal with the move when the time comes.  Prioritize.  Right now you have one focus – the wedding.  Don’t worry about what’s to come 2-3 months from now.  Your support (your fiance) will be back by then and you two will cross that hurdle when the time comes.

5 – And this is the most important piece.  Focus on the marriage, not the wedding.  The single most important thing about your wedding day is the commitment the two of you are making to one another.  If it’s not *perfect* who gives a shit.  The two of you are in love and you’re committing your lives to one another.  That’s the ultimate, more so than your dress, the food, the music, etc.  Don’t lose sight of that.

And if it makes you feel any better, the last few weeks of wedding planning FLIES BY!  He will be back before you know it.  Good luck hon.

Post # 5
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1141 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2012

Very nice advise, I would add because your having trouble staying motivated. Try writing down on a list everything that has to be done, then put it in the order it should get done, then split it up into the number of weeks until your wedding minus one week. It will help keep everything in a timeline and you just focus on the week your in, It’s def less overwhelming.

Post # 6
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772 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

@bricon:  Yes!  And a planner/calendar.  Give yourself deadlines.  It’s so much easier to manage.

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