(Closed) Latest on Bridesmaidzilla…

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
716 posts
Busy bee

clearly she is clueless in this situation, sorry you’re dealing with this.  as long as she’s on time and there for the ceremony, let her figure everything else out.

Post # 4
307 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Yes, definitely bridesmaidzilla!

Sounds like she has no idea, such a shame the buses and trains are so rubbish or she could just leave early on the day of. Is there a way if she agreed to get the early bus that someone could pick her up from the train station and get her back to the venue? Ah but then I see the bus takes 8 hours, OK not really an option unless she does it overnight.


I don’t know what to suggest. If I were you I think I’d be really angry and just come out with it ‘If you can’t be bothered to travel, I’ll have to find another friend to be bridesmaid in your place’.

I hope she gets her act together!

Post # 6
979 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2008 - A tiny town just outside of Glacier National Park

I don’t see why this is your problem. Presumably she’s an adult. Tell her to figure it out herself.

Post # 8
982 posts
Busy bee

@Rachel631:  she sounds like a right b***h. Seriously – why is it up to you to organise her ride there and home? If she doesn’t drive, that’s her problem, not yours. She shouldn’t be bothering you with her issues. Everyone else is capable of organising their own transport. She can’t leave her animals to be looked after by someone else? Please!!

If I was asked to be a Bridesmaid or Best Man, I’d be stoked. I’d wear whatever was picked with pride! I wouldn’t turn someone else’s wedding into ‘all about me’, which is exactly what she’s doing. 

I honestly think you should give her another out. Say ‘it’s not up to me to arrange your transport, I’ve given you options but if you don’t want to do that, that’s fine. If you don’t wish to be Bridesmaid or Best Man or attend the wedding, then let me know now, as I can’t have you flaking out close to the wedding’.


Post # 9
9916 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

How were you expecting her to get to your wedding?  Also…how does she get to work?!

Post # 10
122 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

I would drop her!

Post # 11
2253 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

@Mrs. Cherry Pie:  +1. 

You already organized one viable option for her. If she chose to reject it, it’s on her to find a different alternative. You need to make that clear to her.

Post # 12
2457 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Honestly, if it was me, I’d kick her as a Bridesmaid or Best Man. She clearly doesn’t seem to care. 

Post # 14
3885 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Give her a plus-one and tell her to use it on whoever is willing to drive her. Let her sort it out.

Post # 15
241 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Rachel631:  I would tell her that you gave her a viable option.  If she doesn’t like it, she can arrange her own way, but if she’s not there on time or at all she won’t be participating.


What a b****.

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