(Closed) Law Enforcement Officer Significant Others – Anybody Else Anxious Lately?

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Post # 76
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3065 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

mghnglnn:  OMG! Are you kidding?? Thats so bizzare!! Wow.

I had the opposite story I got pulled over, ( was speeding) and felt sooo awkward being like hey my Darling Husband is a cop…so i didnt bring it up until after he already gave me the ticket ( which I knew at that point it was too late anyway) and he was liek WHAT I never write LEO family and was like Why didnt you tell me!

I was kicking myself but oh well 🙂

Post # 78
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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

mghnglnn:  not to start an unrelated debate, but don’t you think those types of things might contribute to the negative feelings people have of LEO feeling they are “above the law”?  Why shouldn’t you get a ticket for speeding just because your SO is an officer? Doesn’t make much sense. Yes I have LEO family who have told me the same and I have never felt comfortable doing that. No one is above the law And when we feel we are, that’s when trouble begins…

Post # 79
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

MrsWBS:  More like an industry perk. Cops cant get you out of anything serious ( like say you run someone over, lol) but I see nothing wrong with getting out of a speeding ticket or two.

And anytime you get pulled over the officer decides whether to write you or not. So if that is your opinion that cop wives should get tickets, it should also be your opinion that the , the guy speeding to the hospital, the kid having a bad day, the women really needing to go to the bathroom should without question get tickets? 😛

Trust me there arent many perks of this dangerous thankless job so Im not gonna say no if my DH’s job helps save me 100 dollars every once in while. 

Other LEO wives might feel differently, By The Way. This is just my 2 cents on getting out of speeding tickets. 

Post # 80
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Honey bee

Boxerlover24:  But honestly, shouldn’t spouses/family of LEOs know it’s dangerous to be speeding and violating laws more than even the general public? If your spouse tells other people, for a living, to not break the law, then I would expect they want their own family to do the same.

I agree with MrsWBS. I don’t think it should be a “perk” to get away with breaking the law. If you are speeding, you should get a ticket, regardless of who you are. You can save money by not breaking the law. Many jobs feel “thankless” like firefighting, teaching, the military, but they aren’t getting perks that violate laws.

Post # 81
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Mrs.Sugabee2003: Sure, we all know its dangerous to be speeding. Where did I say I was speeding intentionally? I dont drive around recklessly expecting to get away with it.  And honestly, your arent LEO spouse or family sooooo your opinion, to me, is irrelevant. 

If the cop decides not to write me for being a LEO wife, great. Just like if the cop decides not to write you because you apologized profusely, are going to shit your pants, or are coming home from a bad day at work. Should all those poeple who speed WITHOUT QUESTION not get a ticket? Ok. Remember that next time you get pulled over and try to talk your way out of it. 

 

 

Post # 83
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

mghnglnn:  

This is why I was so excited for an LEO SO thread!

 I just wanted to share opinons on being a cop wife with other cop wives, LOL! Edited because my other response made me seem angry, which I am not  🙂 letting it go. 

 

 

Post # 84
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2016

Boxerlover24: You really don’t get what I was saying, do you? You said: “More like an industry perk… I see nothing wrong with getting out of a speeding ticket or two.”

This honestly disgusts and disillusions me. Speed limits are not arbitrary, they are set for specific reasons. There is a 73% greater chance of serious injury or death in an accident where speeding 10 km/hr over the speed limit (6MPH) is a factor. And there is NO guarantee that the driver who was speeding will be the one taking those consequences. It could be a pedestrian. Or a kid. Or a single parent trying to get their kids from soccer. Or anyone, any life is precious.

Sure, speeding on a dry, clear stretch of straight road because you desperately need a washroom or you’re diabetic and you’re going to have issues if you don’t get your insulin or some sugar RIGHT NOW are special cases where it makes sense for a cop to give some leniency because the consequences are shitty either way. If a person wasn’t paying attention and their speed crept up but they’re basically crying real tears because they’re ‘so sorry it happened, officer, I promise that won’t happen again and I’ve never had a ticket before’ – maybe that warning will be enough and end up more effective than giving them the ticket.

But having an officer in the family should NEVER be a “get out of jail free” card, FOR ANY REASON. For one, where does it end? Just if it’s under 10 km/h over? What if it’s speeding in a playground zone? What if it’s public drunkenness, or someone got a little hot under the collar at a bar and got into a fight? If you’ve got your police friend’s back when his kid gets into trouble on his first night drinking in public, you oughtta get his back when he hits that suspect a little too hard during an arrest. Because it was the heat of the moment, right? You understand. You’d want him to understand if it happened to you too.

And so attitudes like this (and like yours that LEO and their families should get some “perks” for being in LE, or like Darkhorse dismissing maximum security prison guards and military veterans as being not as worthy of concern) are part of the problem that turns the public against cops. And if not actively against them, just less likely to do something small to help them. So… if you guys want to talk shop, this website probably isn’t a great place to do it. 

Post # 85
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2015

babeba:  Bravo! Man, some of the elitist comments in this thread help perpetuate negative stereotypes of LEO. Anyway, may Buddha be with the LEO’s and families of LEO’s who are level headed and honestly in the business of protecting ALL people. Over and out.

 

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