- 5 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014 - Italian Villa
The fiance and I are newly engaged (about a month), and he is a police officer. We have been together for about 3 and a half years, but he has been unemployed (though usually in school) for almost the entire time. He just got his first police job about a month and a half to two months ago- a big milestone.
Unfortunately, I was unprepapred for how little time I would be able to spend with him now that he has a job. I thought police academy was tough (7 days per week, 10-12 hours per day), but at least he was home in the evenings, when I have grown accustomed to spending time with him.
His schedule right now is 4 days per week, 5pm-3am. Usually (97% of the time) he is able to stop home for some quick dinner during his lunch break, but he is still in FTO, so he has been rushing out before his break time is up so that he can beat his FTO sargeant back to the department.
Anyway, I have been having a hard time with feeling lonely. Part of this issue comes from the fact that I have moved out here to the middle of nowhere to be with him, giving up my just budding career. As a result, I am currently unemployed, but have been looking for some work (options are few and far between out here- I can either be a server (overqualified, and I swore I wouldn’t go back), or a city planner (totally underqualified), but those are the types of jobs available here. [The fact that it says “Denver” by my name is outdated- we now live in Buena Vista, CO. Google it!)
So with very little to do during the days, I have been spending a lot of time cleaning and cooking (picking recipes which take a long time) and surfing the web. The fiance doesn’t usually get up until about 1pm on work days, so we usually have a few hours to spend together (usually just sitting on the couch) before he leaves for work.
I could use advice, especially from law enforcement wives, on how to keep myself occupied mentally and socially, now that we live out here and I don’t know anyone. Modern technology is a big help to stay connected to friends back home, but I have just become so overwhelmed with feeling useless and lonely.
TL;DR My fiance is a police officer and is away for the majority of the day (incl. evenings) for 4 days of the week. We moved out to the middle of nowhere and I don’t know anyone and am feeling lonely. Help!