(Closed) Lawd help anyone that says something rude about my engagement ring..

posted 8 years ago in Rings
Post # 78
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

@krayzay87:  plus, didn’t those people ever hear the saying: “if you have nothing nice to say, don’t say it at all” ?! 

Post # 79
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2015

@BrandNewBride:  How on earth did she take “elegant” as a bad thing? My word. 

My general response when I see an engagement ring on someone is “OMG congrats, it’s beautiful, that’s so exciting!” and pray that they don’t have some massive gripe about it that they suddenly feel the need to confide in me about. 

Because even if I think the ring is godawful ugly, the fact that they are engaged is beautiful and exciting, so I’m not lying. 🙂

Post # 80
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I have no idea how or why, I’m right there with you.

“If you can’t say anything nice…”

Why can’t we all simply like & want different things? 0Ct., 1Ct., 9Ct., just be joyful for the other person’s joy, right?!!

Doesn’t matter that it’s not something you’d prefer.

Post # 81
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

It is such a personal thing, I never understand why people feel the need to make such rude comments.  

I haven’t had any directly intentional rude comments yet (at least, I don’t think so) … but I did have one person say, “It’s the perfect ring for you because your hands are so petite!”  I wasn’t sure what she meant, so I just thanked her … but, I don’t exactly have petite hands (6.75 ring size) and my ring is 2.2 tcw, so it isn’t petite either … hmmmm.  It was the kind of comment that struck me afterwards were I was left wondering if she was implying my ring was small?

I love different rings, colored stones, etc.  Just like every relationship and every love story is different, so is everyones tastes in jewelry.  

Post # 81
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Blushing bee

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Zhabeego:  Aha! Love it!. That’s gonna be my line if it ever happens to me lol

Post # 81
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2015

 

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krayzay87:  That’s exactly how I feel when some people have the nerve to make unpleasant comments about my cluster ering, e.g., “your ering is a bit too much for me…” I really want to say, b!#$÷ch, that’s fine ’cause it wasn’t bought for your materialistic azzzzz! I have nothing against those big beautiful sparkly solitaires, but wearing a rock doesn’t make you rock and not having a rock doesn’t make you suck! To each his own! Doesn’t matter if it’s a budget selection or a personal preference selection; either way, people need to mind their business! 

 

 

Post # 82
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

I’m glad you wrote this post! I now have some smart a$$ comments at the ready in case anyone says anything about my MOISSY I just ordered.

Post # 83
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Newbee

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krayzay87:  some of these ladies on here are terrible. After seeing some of these threads I want to delete my account!!

Post # 84
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Buzzing bee

IF you love your ring, and IF you’re really a grown-up, you will respond “My, what an interesting comment!” and proceed to tell the idiot who tried to insult your beautiful ring why it’s just absolutely perfect FOR YOU!

Post # 85
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Worker bee

I have actually had a few very mean comments directed at my ring. I usually just smile and say, “Well, I love it.” But there was one time that I got really, really upset. A girl I know from school is friend of one of my best friends. This girl and I are not friends. She is mean. Sarcastic in a bad way. And snotty. I am typically very nice. I see no point in being needlessly mean… unless provoked. This girl asked to see my ring. She instantly started to say pretty rude things. “Wow, I thought your Fiance was a doctor! That doesn’t look like the ring of a doctors wife.” “Your Fiance must be a bit cheap.” “I would never want a colored stone. It isn’t very tasteful.” 

I think my biggest problem sometimes is that I am too nice and often let things roll off my back so people feel free to say to me as they will. But the things I let roll off my back are usually directed at me. Now, if you say something rude about those I care about I can get pretty mean. 

After like the 10th rude comment about my Fiance I put my engagement ring on my middle finger. I then asked in a very sweet voice if maybe she wanted to get a closer look. When she turned to look I was flipping her off. 

Childish? Perhaps. Satifying? You bet your ass. I told her that if this wasn’t close enough I could always go from a finger to a fist. She didn’t say anything and left right away. Now every time I see her she is as sweet as candy to me. 

Post # 86
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2015

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MissCompanion:  ha! That’s brilliant! You are a hero!

Post # 87
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

It really doesn’t matter if you have a ring that is large or small, as long as you love it that’s all that matters! I love all different styles of engagement rings and think each and every ring and stone is unique and beautiful, I would never say anything rude about anyone’s rings. I have a large diamond engagement ring and I get all kinds of rude comments, is it real, oh your husband must love you etc. so it does happen everywhere unfortunately some people just can’t help themselves and are jealous. Hey i have even been sent private messages on this board about how my ring is obviously fake and not to post it lol. How would they even know and who could seriously be bothered? Just take it with a grain of salt! I’m sure your ring is stunning as are all of the rings on wedding bee 🙂 

Post # 88
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Busy bee

Amen!  I’m sure my ring would get a lot of dislike on here because the center is made up of 6 invisible set princess cuts instead of one large stone.  My fiance picked it because it sparkled more than any solitare he looked at (his nickname for me is Sparkles) and to him, it was me personified in a ring and the sapphires and diamonds in the band represet our college colors (blue and white). He didn’t buy it because he couldn’t afford a solitaire, but because he felt it was more me.  The amount of thought and care he put into it makes it such an incredibly special piece to me.  Every bee should be proud to wear whatever her fiance gives her because that ring is a symbol of love and commitment and you can’t put a price on that!

Post # 89
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Sugar bee

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sparkles1986:  Awww, that is so sweet! Your ring has a lot of meaning behind it, I love that!

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MissCompanion:  LOL your response is classic!!! If people said such rude comments to me about my (future) e-ring they would be leaving with a 3 stone imprint in the middle of their forehead. It’s fine for people to have different tastes and to not like particular band styles or cuts, look at the great variety of e-rings to suit each personality on this board! But… When people make catty comments like ‘it’s ugly’ or ‘your Fiance is a doctor and your ring should be bigger…’, it’s just seriously fucking rude. I DO think a lot of the time it’s jealousy talking.

Post # 90
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

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MrsConnolly2bee:  what’s wrong with a “cute dainty ring”? I’d take it as a compliment and say something like “thanks, I love how elegant and classy it is”. If she really did try to offend you, she’d be pissed off to know that her comment didn’t piss you off 😀

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