(Closed) Lawyer Bees – the old career/family dilemma

posted 6 years ago in Career
Post # 3
9142 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 2013 - St. Augustine Beach, FL

26/27 is a good goal.  I am 28 and comfortably employed but waiting until we’re married for a year before we TTC.  I wanted to wait until I was licensed to practice and practice for a few years before TTC mainly so I would have decent pay and good benefits (great medical and shoirt term disability so I can afford to take maternity leave.)  I have okay pay right now but I would like to make more and save more before we TTC so I am glad we have more time before we plan to TTC.

Post # 4
11325 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: February 2011

I think it is so firm-specific it is really hard to say. Considering your long term relationship with your firm that seems like a good plan, UNLESS you feel the firm is not family friendly (i.e. crappy maternity policies or inflexibility aftewards) and you think you need to find a better firm before TTC. I do think it is best to work for some place for at least a year before announcing pregnancy if possible.

Post # 6
9955 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: December 2012

Can’t speak to the lawyering aspect… but can say that before 30 is a good age to get started in the “baby making biz”.  That was the game-plan I had way back when (mid 1980s).

If all goes to plan you can have your kiddies at an age when (a) your still very fertile, and in great shape physically to carry them without too many issues (b) have tons of energy so you can multitask without much worry… Mom, Lawyer, Wife, Sister, Daughter, Friend etc… (c) and will be young enough to be able to run after said children and join them as they take on the world (ie outdoor pursuits like camping, swimming, biking, hiking, skating, skiing etc with them).

AND as an added BONUS by the time they are off to University, you’ll still be young and vibrant (mid 40s or so) and therefore be in your maximum earning years, and have lots of energy to take on life, and explore the world again as part of a couple with your Hubby

Hope this helps,


Post # 7
4 posts
  • Wedding: July 2013

I think your plan to get qualified and work a year or two first is good. If you’re planning to be the primary income earner, you definitely need to establish yourself with a good firm who will be supportive before you have kids. That will definitely mean having some post-qualification experience. Also, consider different areas of law – some are more family friendly than others.

I’m personally thinking of not going back to work, or only going back part time after we have kids. I’d much rather be the one staying at home, but that’s just me. 

Good luck! 

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