Post # 1
So I was wondering whether any lawyer bees have advice for me about timing TTC. To be sure, we’re not desperate to start yet, but I’d prefer to be a younger mum and would like to know how other people have navigated this problem!
Not sure how qualification works in the US, but in the UK you complete your undergrad, do a postgraduate diploma, two years of training and then you’re qualified as a solicitor. I’m about to start my two years’ training and then have to work for the same firm for at least another two years (they sponsored my post-grad, and it was a condition of their paying the tuition costs).
I’d like to have at least one or two babies before I’m 30. I’m 23 now, so will have qualified at 25. We’ve spoken about maybe starting TTC when we’re about 26/27 (so around the time my fixed term ends at the firm). Does this sound like a good plan? As I’ll likely be the greater earner between us, we’ve talked about Mr CL perhaps being a Stay-At-Home Dad which would probably mean less of a career break for me (somewhere between 6 months and a year). How much do you think it would affect my prospects? Should I even be worrying about this right now?!
Post # 3
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26/27 is a good goal. I am 28 and comfortably employed but waiting until we’re married for a year before we TTC. I wanted to wait until I was licensed to practice and practice for a few years before TTC mainly so I would have decent pay and good benefits (great medical and shoirt term disability so I can afford to take maternity leave.) I have okay pay right now but I would like to make more and save more before we TTC so I am glad we have more time before we plan to TTC.
Post # 4
I think it is so firm-specific it is really hard to say. Considering your long term relationship with your firm that seems like a good plan, UNLESS you feel the firm is not family friendly (i.e. crappy maternity policies or inflexibility aftewards) and you think you need to find a better firm before TTC. I do think it is best to work for some place for at least a year before announcing pregnancy if possible.
Post # 5
@beachbride1216: Thanks for your input – that’s really helpful. I guess because Mr CL and I have been together for such a long time it feels a bit like it might never happen!
@CorgiTales: I completely agree that you should wait at least a year because at least that way you’ve made an impact within the firm – they’re more likely to help you work out the best plan and to be a little more flexible. As far as I can tell, the firm is pretty family-friendly but it’s so difficult to tell because all of my contact with them has been pretty controlled so far (interviews, assessment days, inductions etc). I’ll definitely keep it in consideration before we’re TTC so I’ve got a rounded view of whether it’s a good place to stay or not.
Post # 6
Can’t speak to the lawyering aspect… but can say that before 30 is a good age to get started in the “baby making biz”. That was the game-plan I had way back when (mid 1980s).
If all goes to plan you can have your kiddies at an age when (a) your still very fertile, and in great shape physically to carry them without too many issues (b) have tons of energy so you can multitask without much worry… Mom, Lawyer, Wife, Sister, Daughter, Friend etc… (c) and will be young enough to be able to run after said children and join them as they take on the world (ie outdoor pursuits like camping, swimming, biking, hiking, skating, skiing etc with them).
AND as an added BONUS by the time they are off to University, you’ll still be young and vibrant (mid 40s or so) and therefore be in your maximum earning years, and have lots of energy to take on life, and explore the world again as part of a couple with your Hubby
Hope this helps,
Post # 7
I think your plan to get qualified and work a year or two first is good. If you’re planning to be the primary income earner, you definitely need to establish yourself with a good firm who will be supportive before you have kids. That will definitely mean having some post-qualification experience. Also, consider different areas of law – some are more family friendly than others.
I’m personally thinking of not going back to work, or only going back part time after we have kids. I’d much rather be the one staying at home, but that’s just me.