Post # 1
O.K, if there are any lawyer bees out there I could use some help. I have a passport for my 15 yr old daughter – I’m the custodial parent. I’m getting married in the Bahamas in July and of course want her with us. She’ll be 16 by the time of travel. I’ve sent several letters for travel consent to my ex in case immigration requests one. It’s been a month now and he still hasn’t gotten it signed/notarized. He returned the first letter unsigned saying he needed more info (I’d used a template from online & provided dates, destination, place we’re staying and airline). I sent 3 additional templates printed from online, filled them in and told him to choose which one he’d like to sign.
Last year, my lawyer told me that even if my ex tried to block international travel for her out of spite, I could get someone from the court to sign off on travel approval. Any thoughts on how to proceed with this? I’ve given him until May 30th to return a signed letter.
Post # 3
You should probably go to your lawyer for this information. He would be familiar with your case and the laws surrounding it. Asking for information on an online message board is risky business when it’s such a serious issue! Good luck!
Post # 4
I’m not sure. I thought you needed consent of both parents. so yes discuss with your lawyer.
And what a douche! why would he make this into an issue?
Post # 5
@Rush1986: Yes, both parents’ consent is the rule, and it’s possible that I might not be asked for a letter of consent, but after all the planning for a wedding, I most certainly don’t want to travel without one.
Regarding the douche issue, well, that’s one of the reasons I divorced him after 25 yrs of marriage, but the bigger question now is, why would he do this to his daughter? We’ve been divorced over 3 years, he knew it was coming for years before that but his douchness never ends. Last year I spent $10,000 to fight him in court because he wouldn’t adhere to the agreement.
Post # 6
You need to talk to your lawyer, this stuff varies in specifics from state to state. It sounds like, in the most general terms, the way to get the court to sign off on it would be by way of a motion, which can be an expensive (and lengthy) pain in the ass, and honestly, you may not have time at this point to get it done. But this is a very specific question having to do with laws in your specific state, so you need to talk to a lawyer in your state.
Post # 7
@pinkfrog: Thank you! I’ve decided not to pursue any legal remedy if he denies consent. My daughter is old enough to ask him for it and if he doesn’t care about her enough to sign off on this trip, she’ll have to deal with the fallout from that. I don’t mean to sound cold, but I can no longer pay to try to force him to do the right thing. He has routinely ignored court orders – he’s above the law. I won’t let my wedding be altered by him and if my daughter can’t convince him of this, it wil be a painful lesson she may need to know. It kills me to say that, but apparently it doens’t kill her father to deny her. We’ll see if the letter happens at all. Thank you again!
Post # 8
Please, please do not put your daughter in the middle of this. If you want to just let the issue drop, then that’s one thing. But no child should ever be put in the middle of a parental dispute. Not even one where you’re trying to benefit her by taking her on a trip. She should not be the one asking him to sign off, or “dealing witht he fallout.” Either keep after him yourself, or just let it drop. But please, for your child’s sake – don’t make her the messenger.