Post # 1
Need advice from all lawyer brides and future lawyer brides!
I’ve always wanted to get married in the beginning of June after graduation from law school, but now I’m sort of rethinking this because of the bar. Is it feasible to get married in the beginning of June, postpone the honeymoon until after the bar exam and take the bar in July? All thoughts appreciated 🙂
Post # 3
I just took the bar, and honestly, early June would have really stressed me out. When do you graduate? I found having my family in town for graduation was an additional stressor and bar prep was a little crazy. I had several friends that took the bar with me who are getting married now or a few weeks ago and that seemed a little crazy too but they had family doing a lot of stuff too.
But, I didn’t really have any time between school/graduation/bar prep and can’t imagine getting married in there…but you may have time and it may work just fine, depending on how big/involved your wedding will be.
It’s funny, it would have been crazy for me, but we got engaged last November and i’m feeling a little like I wish I was married already by now. We’re moving and I’m starting a new job, and now it’s more like spring for a ceremony, although we’re thinking pretty seriously about going to the courthouse with our folks in the next month or two.
Good luck with everything!
Post # 4
It partly depends on where you live and how large of a wedding you’re planning to have…if your state has a very high pass rate, I’d consider it, but even then, I don’t think I would ever dare to get married before the bar. You want to start studying for the bar in May after graduation. I think it would be way too stressful to have a wedding and then the bar exam within a 2 month period. Your wedding is more important, but in terms of timing, you have some flexibility on when to have it. Alternatively, you have NO flexibility on when the bar is administered.
If you live in a state with a low pass rate like CA or NY, I would not even consider getting married right before. You need every week you can get to study, since you don’t want to take that exam again.
Then again, if you are planning an intimate affair with 40 people, perhaps it can be done.
Post # 5
I think I would have gone too crazy trying to do that. I wanted to take it slow and enjoy the planning instead of cramming it in like one more thing to do on my list during 3L. Plus, it was really nice to have the wedding planning to look forward to as a change of pace after the bar. We’re just getting started now and I think I’m going to enjoy the process a lot more than I would have if I had tried to do it before the bar. Yes, sometimes I wish I was already married (or getting married soon) but I think reducing the stress of planning definitely outweighs those feelings–at least for me.
Post # 6
Hmmm on second thought, what year are you entering into? 2L year or 3L year? If you are starting your 2L year, what about getting married before graduation?
I graduated back in 2004, but I still remember how easy 3L year was. I was constantly contemplating getting a part time job as a make up artist or doing something really fun. I played around 3rd year because I had already locked down a job and could brief cases in a jiffy. So that might be an option for you! You could then take a minimoon right after graduation, I don’t think bar classes start until 1-2 weeks after graduation.
Post # 7
May 2012. I wanted a long engagement (18 months plus) so that I could plan everything out that I want my mother and wedding planner to handle for me when I can’t do it. I’ve also considered doing it in March during our spring break. Not the ideal wedding month that I had always dreamed of, but March is really pretty. My friend’s older sister is an attorney and they got married in the March of her third year on the Saturday before Spring Break. My only issue with that is that I don’t go to school in the same city that I will be getting married in (I live 3 hours away, which isn’t a huge deal).
Post # 8
I tend to think 3L year is less laid back these days because we’re all looking for jobs during 3L now…well, a lot of us. Sigh. SO glad I found one, but it wasn’t in the city we hoped to stay in. Oh, well, Adventure!
Post # 9
Oooh, March seems like a great idea! I don’t know when your bar prep starts, but mine wasn’t until the beginning of June. Good luck with everything!
Post # 10
I’m in British Columbia, so our requirements/scheduling are a tad different, but here is how I’m doing it:
~ April 25 – finish law school exams
May 7 – Wedding
May 8-23 – Honeymoon, Second reception in Europe
May 24 – Start PLTC Course (its a requird ‘prep’ class for the bar exam
Beginning of August – Write Bar exam
Monday after Exams – start Articling for 9 months
One of the other summer students are my firm is also getting married next summer after 3L. He is getting married a week after finishing PLTC and writing the exams in early August. He then starts clerking the first week of September for 11 months.
Post # 11
Don’t do it!! I couldn’t imagine planning a wedding and dealing with all that while doing bar study. Also, you’re not going to want to be yanked from your cloud of newlywedded bliss into the hell that is bar study that quickly.
I would strongly advise against a June wedding
Post # 12
I think you could do it. I worked part-time while I studied for the bar (Illinois). I didn’t feel stressed out and I passed. I didn’t think the exam was that difficult. Although I went to every bar/bri class and I studied hard!
I think it’s less of a question of whether you could do it, and more of a question of whether you really WANT to be juggling the last phase of your wedding planning, the week before your wedding, and your wedding day along with bar/bri classes. It might really take some of the fun out of the wedding stuff. And, it’s probably going to be a bummer to come home after your wedding day and settle down to a huge pile of bar exam books. Also, I don’t know what your situation is, but if you’re like most law school grads studying for the bar, you’re not working yet. Working and having a steady income while I plan my wedding is giving me peace of mind (and lots of amazing options when it comes to dresses, flowers, etc.!). Just some things to think about.
Post # 13
Thanks for all of your wonderful answers!!! If this helps with any of your advice, we were thinking about June 2, 2012. It’ll be about a week after graduation, so I was thinking that bar prep classes wouldn’t start until the middle of June (correct me if I’m wrong). I thought that this wouldn’t be a bad date because the hard core studying won’t have started yet, and postponing the honeymoon until after the bar would give me something to work for and look forward to. just my thinking. i could totally be wrong haha
Post # 14
It might depend on where you are taking the Bar, but I graduated on a Sunday, moved on Monday and started Bar classes on Tuesday. (I took the NY Bar.) So there really wouldn’t have been time for the wedding, at least not without missing a number of the early classes. I found Bar studying to be really stressful from the beginning — just my experience, I know plenty of people who didn’t really care about it until the beginning of July — and I wouldn’t have wanted to start out married life that way. Especially if your husband is not a lawyer, I’m not sure he would understand why you would have to study so much and wouldn’t have as much time to be with him. I also probably would have been a lot more tempted to not study as much if I had just gotten married.
In terms of planning, my 3L year was a lot busier than I expected it to be, but of course that depends on how much you have planned — clinic, journal, moot court, etc.
Just my two cents. Good luck! 🙂
Post # 15
The reason we’re not getting married until 2012 is because I have to take the bar next summer.
While it might be feasible for some, I don’t feel like it’s feasible for me to try and plan a wedding while working on bar prep stuff.
Post # 16
@mlinds2: bar classes usually start middle-to-end of may. you could probably swing a june 2nd wedding since it’s early enough in the studying season that if you miss anything the first 2 weeks, you still have time to catch up in july.