(Closed) Lazy Bridesmaids?

posted 5 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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3039 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Perhaps they are making plans, just not telling you about them yet. Also, in all fairness – your wedding is in another 10 months. I can understand that you think about it a lot, but they probably have things in their life that has a higher priority at this point.

 

If you’re worried, and this is very important to you, call the Maid/Matron of Honor about it and tell her how you feel. You can’t do much more than that, and if that doesn’t work – well focus on having a great wedding day instead. After all, that’s what’s important!

Post # 4
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202 posts
Helper bee

their lives aren’t going to stop for the next year and a half until your wedding.  its so far away that its not really on their radar, but they’ll get more excited when it gets to the 6 month or less mark.  just remember that while the wedding is the biggest day of YOUR life, your wedding isnt the biggest day of their lives and so nobody is going to be as excited as you or wanting to gush about it 24/7 like you want to.  you’ve got plenty of time for planning and styles might change by the time your wedding rolls around, so i’d wait on getting their dress and shoe preferences anyway

Post # 6
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4284 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@dreamer1288:  You only need to order YOUR dress a year to 8 months in advance. Not theirs. I think you need to take a step back and RELAX, otherwise this is not going to be a pleasant planning experience for you or anyone involved. You have PLENTY of time!

Post # 9
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7651 posts
Bumble Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2012

You are planning way too far out. Calm down and let everything fall into place later. You have plenty of time to get the bridesmaids dresses figured out and all that. The men are going to start planning paties because, well, men are like that. They are in the moment too though.

When you are a year out you can start worrying about all this.

Post # 10
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3039 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@dreamer1288: Well, I think worrying about the wedding comes with the Ering! 🙂

My bridesmaids are both in Sweden, so obviously I won’t expect them to arrange a bridal shower (which I had never heard about before moving to Canada!) or a bachelorette party. However, there’s still things that must be done before they big day – like selecting their dresses, and them helping me to find mine. I found that emails worked so and so, people read them and think “Ok, I will answer that but it will take longer than 5 min, so I do it after dinner” – only that they don’t. It’s human, but a bit frustrating from time to time. Our solution to the problem was WhatsApp. It’s so much easier to keep in contact because it’s so quick! Perhaps you can try something similar.

Post # 12
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202 posts
Helper bee

@RoyalLime:  Exactly.  the wedding dress should be ordered 8-12 months ahead of time but its totally different for the bridesmaids.  my bridesmaids ordered their dresses from alfred angelo 3 months before our wedding and they had more than enough time for alterations.  like I said, styles change, so you dont want to order too far ahead of time anyway.  and if you look through these boards, you’ll see that people often recommend you dont choose the people to be your bridesmaids too far in advance anyway.  dont give yourself reasons to start resenting your bridesmaids already or else it’ll be a loooooooooong 21 months until your wedding!

i should also add that bachelorette parties and bridal showers are nice things but not required of the bridal party, especially if any are traveling from a distance since they will already be putting quite a bit of money into getting to your wedding and buying the appropriate attire, makeup, etc.  its best not to have expectations and allow yourself to be surprised rather than expect these things and be disappointed or feel let down.

Post # 15
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11752 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Don’t worry yet, you still have plenty of time!

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