Post # 1
Fiance and I have been doing long distance on and off for about 4 1/2 years (He’s in the mlitary and we knew each other from high school). Well, he FINALLY just moved home! YAY :)) We are both ecstatic to be together and finally have a normal relationship. He’s been home for about a week and so far its heaven (even tho I dont think its actually hit either of us yet that hes home FOR GOOD lol) We are truly each others best friend and in the end our relationship has come out on top due to all the hardships we’ve gone through in the past (I’m not saying LD was a peice of cake but we made the best of it!). Everyone was telling me to “get ready” for him to come home because, technically, we’ve never been around each other for longer than a month and once hes HERE it’ll be much different. I’m sure it’ll be somewhat of an adjustment to ACTUALLY have him here… but i was thinking it’d be an adjustment for the better! Others seem to think it’ll just be harder on us at first.
Has anyone been in a LDR and when it ended the relationship got harder? Was it a hard adjustment to actually have your SO/FI home? It seems to me like everything would be better because no more phone calls/emails/skype dates and We’d physically have each other now. Imput ladies?
Post # 3
Talk to ejs…she went through this not too long ago.
I’m still waiting on my LDR to end when the hubs moves home in October (he’s military too). I’m sure yes, it will be an adjustment. Each of us has been out on our own for 10 years now with our “own” space. So, moving another person into a tiny apartment will be a bit of a challenge. lol But, the way I see it, if you can successfully make an LDR work, you can make ANYTHING work.
Post # 4
My FH and I met in College my sophomore year but didnt start dating till that summer which he spent training for the Marines (at which point i had NO contact with him besides snail mail) Because of this we spent our college days together all the time! which was great, but at times we did get a little burnt out on one another and got into stupid little fights at times and looked forward to doing things with other people to have some time apart.
Now that we are graduated he Commissioned into the Marine Corps and is always away and I only get to see him once a month, if that. Which, is probably how our lives will be for a while. Its hard to be away from him and we both miss each other like crazy but when we are together we have the best time in the world. It’ll be an adjustment when we move in together next year, but I couldnt be more excited!
What I’m trying to say is, yeah you could find yourselves getting annoyed with one another now and again because youre not used to spending so much time together. But that could happen to any couple to be completely honest. Just maintain the communication you have in your relationship and like JsDragonfly said: “If you can make a LDR work you can make anything work!”
As long as you have a good balance between spending time with him, but also making time for yourself and your friends, then you have nothing to worry about! Don’t let anyone scare you.
Enjoy your time with him! 🙂
Post # 5
@JsDragonfly: I 100% agree with you. If you can make LDR work you can make anything!!
thanks brady3537! I think two good things we got out of LD is we have amazing communication and trust. Which i think are the main problems in marriage. I’m pretty confident we’ll be fine i just wanted opinions of people that have gone through this. We just bought a house but I’m not moving in till after our wedding in November… i KNOW this will be an adjustment but im pretty sure it is for ANYONE that moves in together!
Good luck in both yof your relationships 🙂