(Closed) LDR Bees. Did you move w/o a job? Or did you get a job before you moved?

posted 6 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2012 - St. Philip Catholic Church/Arcadia Brewing Co.

Mr. Aardvark was the one who did the moving. But he looked and looked for 14 months and then moved without a job. 2 months after he moved, job. If you are looking in FI’s city list his address as yours. It was amazing how things changed once he had a local address.

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I looked for 18 months while we were long distance. About 3 months before I moved Darling Husband hubby said I should move regardless of whether or not I’d found a job because we both were tired of the long distance thing. Ultimately I found part-time work teaching which I figured would just be temporary.  2.5 years later, I’m still teaching part-time. But very happy to be in the same house together.

Post # 7
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

@mnp:  I moved before we were married. The job market right now is just outright discouraging for everyone. I’d love to be paid for full time work, because while I’m technically considered part-time, the hours I put in are full time. So, I’d really love to be doing something else work-wise.

Just keep looking, there are bound to be jobs that will open up! I agree with putting your FI’s address on your resume. It may open up more opportunties for you! 🙂

Hang in there!

Post # 8
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121 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I was able to keep my job from my former city and work remotely. I’ve been with the company 5+ years and a lot of people on our team are from home offices across the country, so it wasn’t totally unheard of. It’s been an excellent situation. The only downside is that I do manage a team of people that are back in the old office, and that can be tough (my boss currently wants to add a few more people to my team and I’m nervous about it), but we’ll work it out as time goes on.

Obviously it depends on your job and your company, but some people might be surprised what roles your employer might be able to find/create for you if they want to keep you. It might not be the exact same job but it’s worth asking.

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

I am waiting until I move.  It’s a different country and the job market moves a lot faster than it does here anyway.  But also, the 7 hour time difference makes it difficult to enquire by phone (and expensive) because jobs in my industry are rarely listed.  I have sent a few emails, and I have checked listings but I’m not trying very hard.

Post # 11
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454 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I’ve been in an LDR for just over 2 months.  SO took a job 1200 miles away.  In the past 6 weeks or so, I have applied to about 120 jobs…and have heard back from 2 of them :-(.  It is very difficult, and the one message I’m getting is that I need to be in that location in order to increase my chances for an interview.  I do have our address out there on my application.  I have tried being open and discussing how I am available for phone and video interviews and how I am not looking for relocation assistance.  I have not said a darn thing about my current location…neither tactic seems to work because as soon as I’m on the phone with the employer and they hear where I’m currently located, I get the standard, “Well, good luck to you.” 

As much as I know moving and hitting the pavement for a job would bring more success…I cannot fathom leaving the perfectly good job I have now.  Being unemployed or underemployed in today’s workforce is like stabbing yourself in the foot…and so my search continues.

…is it possible for you to take a full week of work off and schedule an incredible amount of interviews during this time?  Also, consider working with local temp agencies so they can help you with some of the heavy lifting.

Post # 12
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: January 2012

I moved from abroad, so it was very difficult to look for jobs before getting here.  I came over without a job, and I spent four and a half months unemployed.  It sucked.  Thank goodness for my savings.

Post # 14
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2018

@mnp:  I really should try harder.  Since it’s a different country there are visa issues.  If I don’t get a job I can’t stay unless SO and I get married (and we don’t want to have to get married, I mean we want to be don’t want the pressure of having to, you know?).  I since I am just about to graduate trying to find a job is tough anyway.  Especially since most entry level jobs exclude overseas applicants, require me to be bilingual (normally in Mandarin) and don’t pay enough for me to get a visa… I am hoping there’ll be someone nice out there!!  And yes, 7 hours is a killer (was 8 before daylight savings)

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

@mnp:  I’m in the same situation as you – I work in a big city and Fiance works in a small town. I’m moving there, and job hunting has so far not been fruitful.

I fully expect that I will have to move without a job, and then spend some time unemployed. It sucks, but we have been long-distance for 5 years. It will be 6 by the time we get married. We’re ready to get married and be together.

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