- 7 years ago
so I have been with my ldr bf for one year now. We met long distance and manage to see eachother about once a month. my bf has an undecided workscheduel, and has a hard time knowing when he can get time off. Wirth to know is that I am the one who is land based, while he is travelling the world. I am very busy too finishing my final year at uni.
so here is my question. in november (four months ago) he decided to go home for a month, saying that he needed to spend time w his family, but he really just saw them three days out of that month. A couple of months before the trip he asked me if i wanted to come if he went back home, but ten nothing, until i found out a week or two before that he was goig there. I was hurt by the fact that he at firat asked me, but then did not “remember” and i found out he was going a week before. I told him this.
in december he did the same thing again, asked if i wanted to come with him to his home country, i said yes ofc, being very happy. But then not a word of it, until i in a accodental email from him find out that he is booking a trip in february to go home for a month, and directly after going a long weekend to thailand. I confronted him in january asking him if he was going, and he just brushed it off saying it was just a vague plan, not mentioning the fact that he had asked me to come. One week before going he asked me if i wanted to come to his home country, but ofc i had to say no because i have to have more of a heads up than that being very busy w school, and he knew that, so i just think he asked to appear nice. I said I could come to thailand since it was during a weekend, but he did not want this, saying it was a boys trip and that his friends are “crazy”
he went on to go on the one month trip to his home country (seeing his family for one day), and is now in thailand “partying w the boys”
To add to this, we have been together in a ldr for a year, but never had a vacation together! He always has to work half the time on the weekends when we see eachother. What hurts me is that two times now he has choosen to spend his only vacation without me, and he has asked me to come two times several months ahead, but when he avtually books it there is no word of me coming with him. I know he is going to work all summer when i have time off, so I saw this trip as the only chance for us to have a vacation together before the fall. I am so disappointed and hurt by all of this, what should i do? A part of me just feels like giving up. But he says he wants to marry me and that we have the best years ahead of us, but if he consistently makes the choice to devote his free time with his friends, i do not see another future than feeling alone and forgotten.