(Closed) LDR brides, are you going to register alone?

posted 8 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: December 2010

Actually, I waited until we were together to do our registry. Each time we were together we did something wedding related. I March we did one registry, in April we did another and had a tasting, and in May we took our e-pics. Thankfully we will be in the same city again.

Post # 4
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

We initially registered together when he was home (he is stationed out of state, USAF) then I added stuff on my own. My Fiance is the kind of guy that doesn’t care what I pick out though, he likes it all so that made it easy! Registering alone is totally a bummer though 🙁

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: January 2018

My fiance is actually looking foward to registering. He thought people just give money, so when i explained to him that usually people bring gifts to the bridal shower(s) and then money to the reception, he thought it was the greatest thing ever and now can’t wait to register 🙂 So one one of his visits if we find ourselves with some downtime, we will go and register together, and then if something needs updating, i will most likely add onto it myself.

Post # 6
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Bumble Beekeeper

My Fiance is also USAF and stationed out of state. We did our registry online so that we could scope everything out together. He only gets to be home 4-5 times a year and I really dont want to overwhelm him by making him spend his precious time home shopping. I would rather do other things with him while he’s here as well.

Online all the way! Plus, that way we got to look up reviews before we registered for things as well. We really saved ourselves some hassle there, I think.

Post # 7
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Newbee
  • Wedding: July 2010

We registered at one place together,  and then I registered at two other places by myself.  I got a good idea of what my Fiance liked and didn’t like (had no idea about some of the things he didn’t like until we were registering!)  He is not a shopper- and we had a list of larger items that we needed/wanted and didn’t look at too many other items. I went back another day. Registering in person allowed us to see where things were made (trying to do made in USA or at least made in non communist/non pro nuclear weapon countries).   

Post # 8
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: August 2010

I was secretly happy he couldn’t come. Can’t imagine that kid and a gun to play with….. But don’t go alone, bring your mom or a bridesmaid or sommething. It can be kinda overwhelming and you will want someone to  tell you that you really do not need a dozen matching brandy sifters or what not. And you can look at and edit almost any of the online ones so he can add things if he wants later.

Post # 9
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Newbee
  • Wedding: September 2010

Fiance is also in the air force (going through his tech school right now) but he is BEYOND excited to register with me. He and I spend a lot of time cooking together so the kitchen gadgets and necessities he will use just as much as I will… anyway, just the thought of me registering without him makes him a little upset. If your Fiance isn’t into any of that then I suppose you could do it without him, but then again maybe this could be a good chance to get him involved! I just feel like registering is a small but overall important part of building your life together.. I wouldn’t want to do it alone!

Post # 10
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Bumble Beekeeper

We did ours together last time I was visiting him. But we adjust it online a lot – we’ll be on skype and i’ll be like, “Oh, I’m adding xyz to the registry!” and he makes me send him a link and looks at it. About half the time his response is that he doesn’t like it, and we find something simllar together online instead. 🙂 The other half he trusts me, haha.

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

we’re going to be doing a mix.  probably try to squeeze in registering together in person once and then after that online “together.”

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2010

Two recommendations from a bride-to-be who registered without her long-distance fiance: 1) bring your bridesmaids/friends that will keep things hilarious and upbeat, and 2) for the major items, like flatware/glassware/china, pick out a few choices in the store, and then send him your choices via email.  I did this with Crate and Barrel… dragged two bridesmaids to one of their fab registry events, then picked out choices and sent him links from their site.  That way, he can weigh in, and you won’t FEEL like you’re doing it alone, because he helped you choose the things that will fill the home you’ll make together!

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