Post # 1
Tonight, I left my fiance for college for the last time before I’m home for good. 3 weeks and it’s over! 3 and a half years of weekends and holidays, phone conversations and skype will finally come to an end. I can’t even believe it. I can’t believe we did it.
which leads me to the question… what was the biggest difference you found when your long distance relationship finally became a close distance relationship? What was the best part (other than the obvious) and what was hard?
Post # 3
SO happy for you! 🙂 I can’t answer you question cause we have never had long distance! I will cross my fingers those 3 weeks fly for you!
Post # 4
Still doing LDR, so I can’t offer much advice on that topic. I will say that the one thing I’m worried about is not having *me* time anymore, and having to give up some of my “secret single behaviors.” But I’m sure we’ll adjust to the proximity just fine!
Soooo excited for you to finally be so close to finished with the distance!
Post # 5
Congrats!! Sounds exactly like us – Darling Husband was in CA for college and I was in FL, so we did the ldr thing for 3 1/2 years too. Nothing better than when I flew out there the last time to bring him home! 🙂
I can’t really say anything was too hard – he’s been home a year this Dec, we were married in October and it’s been fantastic. You already have a good basis in never taking his presence for granted… just remember how happy you guys are to finally be together, especially when fighting, and everything else works itself out 🙂
Post # 6
Oh girl! I’m so happy for you. When I was at that time myself, I remember feeling less excited and more just… relieved.
And after we got to see each other every day and live with each other, not much changed except that I was happier, and more relaxed, and just… happier.
Post # 7
Oh man, I could not agree more with not taking each other for granted. Now I think I need to go hug my bf.
Post # 8
That’s so exciting! It’s so difficult to get used to communicating face to face (even years after the LDR is over). My husband and I still have an easier time talking online instead of having deep convos in the same room together!
And I agree with the others about not taking it for granted, you get used to being together and forget what it was like before you were together all the time.
Post # 9
@Beluga: Haha well I just hugged mine 🙂 Certainly keeps things in perspective right?
Post # 10
Congrats! I’m so excited for you and honestly a bit jealous. 5 months to go for us. Often I think that moving to the same spot is more exciting than the wedding. Since we are still apart I don’t really have any advice other than Enjoy!
Post # 11
holy crap, congrats!!!!!!!!!!!!!! we have another 2 or 3 years, i can’t wait until i’m in your shoes! hope the weeks go by quickly for you!
Post # 12
For us it was just such a relief beyond words to not have to say goodbye in an airport anymore! We were legally married in April (official wedding in October) and we enjoy our time together. 🙂 Make sure to still take some time for yourselves (everyone needs a little “me” time) but as others have said, don’t take it for granted!!
Congrats at it almost being done!! I know I was thrilled when I got to that point. 🙂
Post # 13
The hardest part for me was realizing that in all our time apart, we had developed very different interests… when we had free time, we wanted to spend it in completely different ways. We lost a lot of what we had in common over the years and over the distance. It was weird for us to be together all the time, because I was so used to spending EVERY moment with him when I was with him, since I only got to see him occasionally.
That said, he wasn’t the right guy for me, and now I’m marrying someone else. The relationship was getting rough before we were done with the distance, and in fact ended before we were together again… but unfortunately not before I had signed a contract for a job and planned to move across the country to be with him. That was a sucky summer.
It sounds like you two are SO much happier, and I’m excited for you to be done with the distance!
Post # 14
First off, congrats!!! You can make it!!! I remember how totally excited I was when our first LDR round was over (currently in our 2nd, end date: July) and how awesome it was to see him everyday again! It’s so nice to never have to say goodbye and to just have that comfort at the end of every day.
I did have some hard times though because I was very depressed for the year of our 1st LDR round as there was a death in my family and I was unemployed. So when we were finally back together, I was still struggling with those emotions, even though I was excited and happy to be back with him. (Proof to those silly people, like one of my friends, who believe a man will make everything perfect that that’s not true!!!). Because of my depression, we had a rocky time after the initial high wore off that took a couple months for me to get out of. So I don’t know how much is due to my circumstances outside of our relationship or not, but the hardest part was after the initial excitement and you have your first disagreement while living in the same place. I think it’s just natural to be like “oh crap, can we not handle being close?” Even though we had been together 2 years before the LDR round started, that thought still crossed our minds, and even though I know it’s totally normal to disagree.
Post # 15
Can I just say that that is so amazingly exciting!! YAY!