(Closed) LDR – plan to get married – help!

posted 6 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

That sounds really tough! I was engaged in a ldr and it was really tough. The thing that was really hard for me was that we were never together experiencing real life, because we were always on vacation. In the end it didn’t work out for us, not because of the ldr, though it didn’t help. I was glad that I gave it the chance I felt it deserved, but i also didn’t give up any of my dreams (stayed in school, kept working so that I had my own life when it ended. Nobod but you can know what the right thing is in our situation, but I would advise putting your own plans first and communicating about your feelings with your SO. I loved my Fiance and he loved me, but i found that love wasn’t enough tomake it worth despite other major issues. Good luck!

Post # 4
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492 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

That is a sticky situation. It sounds like he wants you to be there to see if things will work out between the two of you but he is not yet ready to be engaged. It should be comforting to know that he does want to make it work. Your situation is different from most but maybe you should consider not having a ring until he is willling to take the necessary steps himself ( I could never propse to myself). You can be engaged for all paperwork purposes w/o actually being engaged.

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