Post # 1
My SO and I have been together for 2.5 years, with the last year long distance. We’ve never lived together. Our plan is for me to move to his city within the next few months, and then get married next summer. We plan on waiting to be married before moving in together.
Sometimes I worry that we’re in for a huge challenge by packing so much change in a relatively short period of time. Have any of you Bees been in a similar situation? Did you find living together difficult after being long distance for some time?
Thanks in advance for sharing your stories and advice!
Post # 2
PretendBee: we dated 4-5 months, then were LDR pretty much for almost a year. Then I moved to his city. I rented my own apt for a little more than a year and then he moved in after we got engaged, married 8 mos later.
-It took me about 4 months to find a job after moving to his city. He had a job and it really, really sucked being in a new city trying to get a job and not knowing anyone but him. In my ideal world I would have landed a job before I moved to be with him but the timing was off.
-it was weird at first when we were around each other after being LDR for a year. But we gave it some time and got into a routine and soon it felt like we’d never been apart.
-I think it was good for me to live in my own place in the new city. it did help me establish my own identity here.
-i think living with anyone is an adjustment. I was scared when we made the leap but I was kinda shocked by how it was totally fine. it seems smart to me that you are living in your own place for a bit to Ease the transition from LDR to living together.
-FWIW it was kinda a bummer planning our wedding away from my family and friends. I wished i had my close friends and mom around more during the planning process, but of course it all worked out.
I hope this helps 🙂 Congrats on the upcoming engagement!!