(Closed) LDR – who’s moving?

posted 11 years ago in Long Distance Relationships
  • poll: Who's moving in your Long Distance Relationship?

    My FI will move to be with me

    I'll move to be with my FI

    We're moving somewhere new after the wedding, where neither of us lives now

    We're going to stay in a LDMarriage for a while until we figure it out

    We've found a different compromise

    Other

  • Post # 17
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    Worker bee
    • Wedding: May 2011

    I decided to move to his town because it’s closer to our families when kids come along. The only thing is the job market isn’t that great for engineers so we may both have to move at some point. For now, that’s the plan!

    Post # 18
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    666 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: March 2010

    @daydreamwanderer– We live 92 miles apart, so we see each other every weekend, pretty much.  Nothing like you being in China!  Still not the ideal situation once we are married though.

    Post # 20
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    I’m moving to be with him once I get my Visa. He owns his home, has a better job & will always have a higher earning potential than me. Not to mention the cost of living is 1/2 of what it is here.  I don’t think it’s ever been an option for him to move here, even though I own my own business! We know what we want for our future & we will be in a better financial position in the US.

    After 4 years of this though I think we’d live on the moon if it meant we could be together sooner… ๐Ÿ™

    Post # 22
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    363 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2010 - Trinity Presbyterian Church/Harrison Opera House

    I’m moving to be with the Lambster – but I’m actually surprised that the majority of us women are moving!  I think it’d be so interesting to have a few more datapoints about if one partner or the other had a job first, or where family is, to see what other reasons could effect this!

    Good luck to all with your moves – I’m starting to get sad about my move.  even though I’m excited to be with my wooly counterpart, I’m still sad to leave the community I’ve built here in Norfolk.

    Post # 23
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    Honey bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    @lamb: I totally agree… I think I’m in denial about my eventual move. None of this feels real  yet.

    @daydream: Oh I totally wish we’d gotten our stuff together sooner. 4 years is 2 years too long to be doing this. After 2 years of LDR (IMO) you need to sh*t or get off the pot! lol

    Post # 24
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    4566 posts
    Honey bee
    • Wedding: August 2010

    You are all so amazing for doing LDR’s… it was pretty much decided after 4 months of dating that if he had to move to another city, I’d go with him so we didn’t have to deal with that (because I knew I couldnt). More power to ya!

    Post # 25
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    Newbee
    • Wedding: February 2010

    My Fiance and I were long distance for 3.5 years, until I moved to Florida to live with him. Like Mishu, I am from the NE and miss it like crazy! There is nothing like the energy of NYC, not to mention the massive cut in pay I took when I accepted my new job. He offered to move, but he LOVES his job and I didn’t want to take that away from him. Actually, the only difficulty we ever have in our relationship is when I get homesick. I try not to blame him, because I CHOSE to move, but it is very hard to be so far away from my friends and family. I know it is worth it though!

    Post # 26
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    453 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: October 2009

    He is moving here! I own my house (well, the bank owns it and I make payments, but you know what I mean) I am settled in my job here, my kids are settled in school here, and this is where we want to be to raise a family together. On trips back and forth since summertime, we’ve both brought his things down in big rubbermaid totes, boxes, bags, hangup clothes, etc. He is moving permanently the Thursday before the wedding.

    Post # 28
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    374 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2010

    I graduated college and moved to be closer to my fiance. Best decision ever. We’re not living together but its so nice to see him more often.

    Post # 29
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    14181 posts
    Honey Beekeeper
    • Wedding: June 2009

    @daydreamwanderer, I was thinking the same thing! I have more earning potential than DH, though, so this was kind of ideal for us….Also, I think more often than not, when you meet in college, the man graduates first, so then the woman follows b/c he’s already set.

    I’m so grateful men don’t make “more” in my field than women. I’d be SO pissed to be in a field like that! It makes me mad to think about it!

    Post # 30
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    Helper bee
    • Wedding: January 2010 - Trinity Presbyterian Church/Harrison Opera House

    @daydream: I would also be inclined to say that a majority of men are older in the relationship and already have roots?  Another thing to consider is where people are with their higher education.  I just graduated with my MA and the Lambster just started his MBA – so that I’m needing to move.  I’m guessing the economy is also playing into it, it’s not so much a choice to move, but more of a “go where you get a job” kind of deal.

    Post # 31
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    279 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: May 2010 - Victorian Gardens of Two Sisters

    Mr. Dachshund will move to be with me (in two weeks, eeeek!)

    My job is more stable than his, and we have a house here that we can live in free-o’-charge for as long as we need to.  And Mr. Doxie lived with his parents.

    In a few years when we’re ready to buy our own home, we may consider moving to Canada; I love it where he’s from.

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