(Closed) LDRs and Plus Ones

posted 4 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
449 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

My partner and I were in an LDR for a while. 5 hour flight. When I was invited to out-of-town weddings, he just didn’t go. We wanted our trips together to be special and planned around what we wanted to do, so we saved our travel money for those vacations. The person who knew the couple went to the wedding and gave the gift.

Post # 4
1359 posts
Bumble bee

When I was in a LDR (military) with a 3 hour flight for part of it, and in different countries for another part. In the time we were together we were invited to three weddings: two for my friends, one for his. 

Wedding 1 (my friend): He was stationed 3 hours away by flight and was able to take a weekend to travel — it was a Destination Wedding for both of us, so we each flew separately and met there. I paid for his travel because he had JUST flown up two other times for things that were important to me at his own expense and we tried to keep it equal. 

Wedding 2 (his friend): He was stationed 3 hours away by flight and the wedding was near his base. I traveled to him and paid my own way.

Wedding 3 (my friend): He was overseas and could not come back for the wedding. I attended solo and he sent a lovely card to my friends (who he’d never met) wishing them a happy day and thanking them for being invited.

In general, I think LDR or not doesn’t matter. I’d split finances however you usually split finances. 

Post # 5
10460 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: August 2016

When we were doing long distance, Fiance just didn’t come to weddings with me. Like coloradohiker88  we wanted our trips together and limited time spent together to be planned by us and for us to be able to focus on us and what we want to do.

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