Post # 1
Is anyone else here LDS or have been to a ring ceremony?
I’ve never been to one. Me and Boyfriend or Best Friend are LDS and planning to marry in the temple with our immediate families in attendance. Since I know he has the ring and is planning to propose before the end of the month, I’ve been thinking of the wedding and reception. We don’t want a long engagement, so we’re probably going to marry in May or June. Because of this, I reckon it’s helpful to start planning stuff asap lol.
I’m 36 and Boyfriend or Best Friend is 38, so we’re both older and have large social groups filled with people who don’t share our faith. As soon as I heard about the ring ceremony, I fell in love with the idea of doing one. But I’ve never been to one!
Most people I know who marry in the temple do a reception, but don’t do the ring ceremony at the reception.
I found the general guidelines online (eg should not resemble a wedding so no vows or bridal procession), but what sorts of things do people typically do during the ring ceremony, except exchange wedding rings of course ;).
I’d like to do it as part of the reception. Like, everyone arrive and be seated, ring ceremony, food and karaoke/dancing.
Anyone with experience with this?
Post # 2
Not LDS, but I live in Utah and most of mine and DH’s family are LDS. I think a ring ceremony at the reception is nice because so many important people in your life may not have their temple recommend, and so won’t be able to witness you guys getting sealed so doing the ring exchange at the reception would give them a chance to feel included. If you do it in the temple, you’ll just sort of slip the rings on each other without any ceremony to it, you know? I would have somebody (maybe your Bishop? Your parents?) say something nice and then you guys could just take turns putting the rings on. I wouldn’t have them announce you guys as married right then though because you will have already done that at the temple. Maybe they could say something about why you’re doing the ring ceremony there.
Honestly though, I’ve been to about a million LDS receptions after people got sealed and I’ve never seen anyone do a ring ceremony… But I can see wanting to do it if you have a bunch of people who aren’t familiar with your faith…
Post # 3
It’s weird how they don’t seem to be very popular. I have a sister who went to BYI Idaho and I asked her about them and she said she’d heard of them, but never been to one either.
Im so excited at the idea. I guess we really can just make it whatever we want beyond the very lose guidelines put out. I haven’t talked to he Boyfriend or Best Friend about it much so I don’t know how he feels about it yet. I’ll probably wait until he puts a ring on it to bring it up. I can’t think of any reasons not to do one though.
Post # 4
anabolina : I have only been to one ring ceremony, and I’m really struggling to remember what was said! It was quite a while ago. I’m LDS as well, so you would think I would have been to more ring ceremonies, but I’ve mainly just been to either the temple sealings or the receptions.
While I don’t remember what was said exactly, I do remember it being short. Your on the right track with looking up the guidelines. I would just follow that up with the Bishop you would ask to conduct the ring ceremony. He should be able to give you a pretty good idea of what to expect and what can be done/said.
Congrats! Any idea which temple you want to be sealed in?
Post # 5
I’m not LDS but have a few friends who are, and I’m also a wedding photographer and photographed a couple of LDS weddings (well you know…pre temple sealing and after plus reception) and I’ve not had anyone do a ring ceremony thus far.
Not being LDS myself, I would maybe just welcome everyone to gather round and maybe say your own vows to each other about how you’ll support each other throughout marriage, and just exchange rings.
Post # 6
Look at LDS wedding videos on YouTube.
That’s how I found out about ring ceremonies. There should be enough to give you some good ideas and show you how they can be done.
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