(Closed) Leaping to conclusions

posted 7 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
Member
600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

I don’t think it’s terribly embarrassing for dudes. They just don’t really give a sh** about wedding gifts, cards, thank yous, anything remotely related to etiquette. Their frame of mind is “why do I need to prescribe to some random rules some random person randomly made up at some point in time I don’t know about.” In fact, he probably didn’t even know there was a timeline for giving gifts and then when you told him he probably didn’t understand why. Then it turned into a nag (just assuming, don’t yell at me please πŸ˜‰ ) and that made him want to not send a gift even more.

About the saying he doesn’t remember… HE DOES! πŸ™‚ My guy does that only he purposely says it bashfully so I know he’s trying to be sly/coy/secretive. I love it too when friends get on a guy’s case; it’s basically the only way to get anything done with dudes! Congrats that he’s thinking about it and won’t tell you! Such a good sign.

Post # 4
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22 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Had to laugh. My Boyfriend or Best Friend and I have talked about getting married, having kids, etc. We have a rough timeline, but are not engaged yet… But he convinced me to buy a wedding dress at a shop near me that was closing and having a huge sale so I know the proposal is coming – hoping he resets my grandmother’s diamond.

His mom asks on a fairly regular basis if I’m “the one” or if she can plan on attending a wedding some time soon. He romantically says “I dunno” and “why, who’s getting married?” Then he comes home and tells me. I have no doubt that’s what he actually said. Thankfully he is romantic and sweet when it’s just us and I know it’s all a macho show for his family.

Then there’s his BFF – a girl he’s known for about 11 years. She and I have become close and she’s been on his case on my behalf. I don’t even have to bug him anymore. πŸ™‚

Post # 6
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22 posts
Newbee
  • Wedding: December 2012

Haha – his BFF is anything but subtle. She and I had a long talk the other day about how I’d like 3 kids by 35 and how it’s important to me to be married first and if you back into a timelime we needed to be married yesterday… So that night we go over her house and she just laid into him with me right there. “You finally found the one, what the hell are you waiting for!?! You’re not getting any younger…” Part of me loved it, but part of me was embarassed – even though she made it clear she was going to say something to him I had no idea shed do it while I was there.

But I guess I’m just as guilty of giving lousy answers – when my mother asked if he was serious about me I said I dunno – I guess – I mean he’s still around isn’t he… But that was more to get her goat than anything to do with him or our relationship.

Best of luck and best wishes!

Post # 8
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600 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: October 2006

@kay01: Cute!  My SO was like that when he told me his best friend called and was really kind to my SO (very rare for this guy) and asked my SO for advice on e-rings and relationships.  He told me a lot of what they talked about specific to his best friend, then I asked if he talked about us at all and he got really suspicious looking and said “I don’t know…”  I said “I don’t know because you didn’t or I don’t know because you did.” and he said that they did! 

Post # 9
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1325 posts
Bumble bee

@kay01:HA!  I knew it. Who do these guys think they are fooling? lol

Perhaps this is why guys are EXTRA secretive regarding our proposals. They know we’re too clever for any BS!

It’s too bad that he doesn’t like sapphires with diamonds! That’s one of the prettiest things I’ve ever seen! Apparently he is picky though, so that means you will be getting an amazing ring!

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