(Closed) Learn From My Mistake – The Bachelor Party

posted 10 years ago in Grooms/men
Post # 121
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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lisa105 :  thank you so much for writing this, my fiancé and I are getting married next year and I’m at the point where I’m dreading the Bucks party sooo much that I can’t seem to enjoy being engaged. It just seems like we bicker about it constantly, I’ve explained how much it would upset me and asked if he could not have any strippers, but he hasn’t mentioned it to his friends-who love strippers! And now he’s calling me controlling and no other fiancées would ask him this…it’s honestly so upsetting. I’m a very traditional person, but don’t get me wrong I like having a night out with the girls and letting my hair down, but I have morals and can’t stand being disrespected. The Bucks party idea, I believe is the most disrespectful event a bride would have to endure, the fact that your about to commit a life time of love to eachother and the groom and groomsmen think it’s acceptable to begin this loving relationship by hiring strippers to rub their private parts all over your mans body. Any other day of the week I would break up with him over something like this because our relationship is built on respect and love for one another but all of a sudden it’s like he can do what ever he wants for one night!! 

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Mrs. Trail Mix :   lisa105 :  I need help. I am the best man for my best friends wedding. I was in charge of planning his bachelor party. I had planned on a night in of poker and some drinks. Long story short, the plans got changed so we went into Atlanta for bars/clubs and eventually ended up at two strip clubs. I don’t do them. I told them no but caved in and went anyway. I didn’t get any lap dances.  My wife says I cheated by seeing other women naked and paying “the whores” OUR money. She is also upset and says she can’t compete with them BC she’s pregnant with our eighth child. I love her more than life itself. No one compares to her in my eyes. I’ve hurt her with my words and actions.  Can anyone please help me. I love her and don’t want her to feel this pain I’ve caused her. 

Post # 123
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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Matty_G :  Honestly, one shes pregnant two, if my husband did this and didnt walk away it would personally really upset me, I asked DH if his friends went to one, would he go in or would he go back to hotel, he told me the hotel, and guess what the night of the bachelor party he facetimed me from the cab and said his friends didnt listen and he was uncomfortable so he went back to the hotel, Im not trying to kick you while your down, but you did have a choice here and you did go into the club when she asked you not too.  I can also understand the money, Im assuming all of your money is combined, and again, if my husband did this I would be furious, especially if he spent a dime of the money that I work hard for at a strip club.  Think of it this way, if you were out to dinner with your wife, and a women came up to you, took her top off and started dancing on you, would you be uncomfortable with your wife being there? If the answer is yes you should be uncomfortable when your wife isnt there too.  My suggestion, tell her everything that happened, say your sorry, and tell her it wont happen again, if nothing truly happened she will come around.

Post # 124
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: June 2017

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kostahowsk : Why not have the husband or boyfriend asked for forgivenss and then demonstrate true remorse by not ever ever doing this again. Then she can forgive him.

Post # 125
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

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meeka87 :  That is not true.  I told my fiancé directly that there will be no strippers at his bachelor party otherwise that will be the end of us.  He could care less about strippers and was not phased by that request.  

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Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

This is a very very old thread. I’m going to close this as I’m sure the OP got all the advice she needed. 

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