- 8 years ago
After reading the title of this post, I’m sure several ladies will want to throw their shoes @ me, but try to hear me out! Ha ha
Oh, the torture of waiting… People say that the longer you wait, the more rewarding it is. Of course, many women say to that, “Umm… yeah, except he said he’d propose months ago & it hasn’t happened,” or “MY DAMN EGGS ARE DRYIN’ UP! I love my guy & he needs to make the committment already!” There are many other more obscenity-laden remarks to be made, as well, I’m sure.
But for those of you who are wanting to have big fancy weddings, that ring being placed on your finger means it’s time to stop dreaming & start DOING. Now, I know most of us feel beyond ready, but try to find comfort in the fact that, for now, you’re not having to do all that work! We can have folders of information & pictures on our computers or in a drawer somewhere, but until we’ve got that ring, we just look @ it all longingly & grow more & more impatient as FB friends post e-ring photos (and for some of us, pictures of their adorable little babies).
It’s often hard for guys to understand the anxiousness to get married, but if you both have discussed it & know that’s where it’s going, exercise some patience. Becoming obsessed too early on often leads to disappointment: disappointment that you found out exactly when he’d propose, disappointment when it’s all finally said & done, or disappointment b/c everything didn’t happen exactly how you’d been imagining it all this time.
Try to relax, fellow waiters. Take this time to save some more money, assess your relationship (making sure you want the marriage & not just the wedding), & just be happy in the moment. After the big day passes, that’s it. All that planning is done & the fruit of your labor has (hopefully) been enjoyed by all those you care about. Once that honeymoon is over, it’s time to get down to the real work: actual marriage. It’s very important to remember that it ain’t always pretty, kids. And that’s OKAY.
You two love each other. Enjoy it. The better you handle the waiting, the more sure he’ll be in his decision to make you his wife.